It sucks to be Jack.
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Still living together at this point. Im doing everything i can to be the most agreeable person i can. For the most part being friendly is pretty easy, i find myself sometimes working real hard to supress my feelings and put on a smile. She doesent have a lot of footing in this divorce for making demandsm, untill she realizes she can hire a $500/hr lawyer and stiff me with the bill.
lol
EDIT: One of the most important things to understand in a situation like this is while i may feel trapped, cornered, and bloody beaten and bruised lashing out to anyone right now will only result in more problems down the road. It feels unfair, but i never believed things had to be fair. sometimes its your turn to take a bit of the **** sammich. or in this case, bite after bite after bite. Grin & bear it. stay strong, focus on the solution not the problem, let your head guide you with reason rather than following emotional outbursts.
I definatly have a new appreciation for the boy. The wife and stepson will no longer be my responsibility in a few months. Logan will be all i have left of the family.
im going to be fine once i get past this financial hurdle. If i get the house sold ill be in fine shape to raise the boy and pay for everything including daycare.
it will be nice having my independance and freedom back. Im certainly not going to jump into any serious relationships or anything untill i have the two of us squared away.
I took this one a few days ago. My little buddy. growing up on me FAST!
lol
EDIT: One of the most important things to understand in a situation like this is while i may feel trapped, cornered, and bloody beaten and bruised lashing out to anyone right now will only result in more problems down the road. It feels unfair, but i never believed things had to be fair. sometimes its your turn to take a bit of the **** sammich. or in this case, bite after bite after bite. Grin & bear it. stay strong, focus on the solution not the problem, let your head guide you with reason rather than following emotional outbursts.
I definatly have a new appreciation for the boy. The wife and stepson will no longer be my responsibility in a few months. Logan will be all i have left of the family.
im going to be fine once i get past this financial hurdle. If i get the house sold ill be in fine shape to raise the boy and pay for everything including daycare.
it will be nice having my independance and freedom back. Im certainly not going to jump into any serious relationships or anything untill i have the two of us squared away.
I took this one a few days ago. My little buddy. growing up on me FAST!
I dated for 9.5 years and monday we celebrated 7 years of marriage. Thats 16.5 years together secret is that no matter what we will work through things and keep our marriage vows. In the Bible looking at a women or man sexually is just as bad as committing the act. Its what is in your heart that counts not your actions so keep that in mind when dating. If its not in your heart you will never act out on it. Keep your son around female family members that are always going to be in his life and not girlfriends that may come and go.
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That's shitty Chris, but after being on here for years I can tell you are a strong person. You will get through all of this, but it won't be easy. At least you love your son and that right there will help you in a big way. Bills suck ***. My wife just lost her job a few weeks ago and now I have to step up and pay the rest of the bills. I can afford that, but I can't cover the half of our mortgage that she paid. It's gonna suck for awhile, but you make the best of what you have and you'll come out of it. I'm sure you could rent out your basement or something for awhile and get some decent money for it.
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Chris, I cannot tell you how bad I feel for you. I know I've only been on here for almost 2 years and I know we've had a stupid small spat (or two, so stupid that I can't even remember), but I've never disliked you. I've always respected you. You have your head on straight and you are a strong willed, hard-working, intelligent man that will do anything he can for his family and friends. It's hard to get to know people on the internet, but one sure thing I can say about this forum is that I feel like I know some of you personally even though I have never met you.
I know a specific ultra-shitty, super-bitch of a woman who does nothing but destroy, belittle and harm others. It ******* pisses me off that she is having a grand old time in her life right now, no problems that I know of, and a good person like you is suffering... and she's not even worth one of your beer ***** or the sweat from your swampy ***.
Keep that in mind.
Things obviously ******* suck beyond words for you now, but if you can get through what you went through with Logan, you can damn sure get through all of this and pass with flying colors. Keep your head up. I know that is hard, but please do. We all want to see you get through this and be happy again, because you really deserve to be happy. We all wish the best for you, Chris.
This makes me want to be rich even more. I'd be poor soon afterwards because I'd give all my damn money away.
I know a specific ultra-shitty, super-bitch of a woman who does nothing but destroy, belittle and harm others. It ******* pisses me off that she is having a grand old time in her life right now, no problems that I know of, and a good person like you is suffering... and she's not even worth one of your beer ***** or the sweat from your swampy ***.
Keep that in mind.Things obviously ******* suck beyond words for you now, but if you can get through what you went through with Logan, you can damn sure get through all of this and pass with flying colors. Keep your head up. I know that is hard, but please do. We all want to see you get through this and be happy again, because you really deserve to be happy. We all wish the best for you, Chris.
This makes me want to be rich even more. I'd be poor soon afterwards because I'd give all my damn money away.
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Sorry to hear about all the **** going down man. Thankfully, you have your priorities set straight to continue working, and take care of your son, and hopefully have custody of him. Kinda makes you remember "why do the shittiest things happen to some of the best people"
You'll pull through I'm sure.
You'll pull through I'm sure.
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Im so sorry about this, Chris. I just don't know what to say. Thinking of these things happening makes my stomach turn a little. I just feel terrible for you. I really hope for the best! Stay strong my friend. We are all here for you. We are proven comic relief, and I hope we can give some emotional support as well.
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**** chris, terrible to hear this, you never expect stuff like this from good people like you.
Just stay strong brother, everything will eventually turn around and come back twice as good.
btw, i sent you a friends request on facebook, accept me brother, it should say "Danny Nieves"
Just stay strong brother, everything will eventually turn around and come back twice as good.
btw, i sent you a friends request on facebook, accept me brother, it should say "Danny Nieves"
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From: Flagstaff, Az / Los Alamos, NM
wow man, it makes me really sad to hear that. But even in these terrible times for you it seems you still have all the important stuff at the top of your priorities, aka your son, and knowing that he is doing well will keep the wheels turning and I am sure you will work through all of this.
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damn dude, sorry to hear about all of this. I know, to an extent, of what you're going through.
(to give a little background on my family, my biological dad left me and my mom when i was about 4 or 5. they were never married. so my mom and i lived with my grandparents and uncle for my whole life, about 14 years. my mom got married when i was 15 and we moved out of my grandparents house.)
when i was 19 my mom got a divorce from my step dad. in order for us (my mom and i) to keep the house, she had to pay him about $50k. she was extremely stressed about being able to pay him for his share of the house.
about 4 months later, a fitting broke on the master bathroom toilet and leaked for about 14 hours (she was at work). that ordeal cost about $10k out of pocket after insurance.
the final straw (remember, bad luck comes in 3's) was she had parked her car in the garage and forgot to/didnt set her ebrake (on 06+ passats its a button, not a lever) and the car rolled out and hit our neighbors nissan. i think that insurance fully cover this (minus our deductible) but her stress level went through the roof.
it just seemed like the world was against her and didnt want her to succeed. there were other little things piling up (my grandparents and her not agreeing, me being at school , and other non-financial crises)
i remember her calling me at night when i was at school crying. i felt so bad for her cause i couldnt be there to help her since i was at school.
sorry for the novel but i thought i would share this to show you that you have some people to relate to. as for the comment about surrounding him with a female presence that is perminant, i couldnt agree more. my uncle (and my grandfather) had great influence in my life when my dad was absent. they were greater influences than my step dad the 4 years i lived with him.
Chris, keep your head up high and keep your priorities straight (which you very well do), keep Logan around family members as much as possible, and you will work through this...may not be immediate, but you will work this situation out.
(to give a little background on my family, my biological dad left me and my mom when i was about 4 or 5. they were never married. so my mom and i lived with my grandparents and uncle for my whole life, about 14 years. my mom got married when i was 15 and we moved out of my grandparents house.)
when i was 19 my mom got a divorce from my step dad. in order for us (my mom and i) to keep the house, she had to pay him about $50k. she was extremely stressed about being able to pay him for his share of the house.
about 4 months later, a fitting broke on the master bathroom toilet and leaked for about 14 hours (she was at work). that ordeal cost about $10k out of pocket after insurance.
the final straw (remember, bad luck comes in 3's) was she had parked her car in the garage and forgot to/didnt set her ebrake (on 06+ passats its a button, not a lever) and the car rolled out and hit our neighbors nissan. i think that insurance fully cover this (minus our deductible) but her stress level went through the roof.
it just seemed like the world was against her and didnt want her to succeed. there were other little things piling up (my grandparents and her not agreeing, me being at school , and other non-financial crises)
i remember her calling me at night when i was at school crying. i felt so bad for her cause i couldnt be there to help her since i was at school.
sorry for the novel but i thought i would share this to show you that you have some people to relate to. as for the comment about surrounding him with a female presence that is perminant, i couldnt agree more. my uncle (and my grandfather) had great influence in my life when my dad was absent. they were greater influences than my step dad the 4 years i lived with him.
Chris, keep your head up high and keep your priorities straight (which you very well do), keep Logan around family members as much as possible, and you will work through this...may not be immediate, but you will work this situation out.
Last edited by PureStang; Dec 4, 2009 at 05:03 AM.
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Ketchum & Killem
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Thanks for your support everyone.
Ive been going over some figures, i never realized how expencive my wife and stepson were.
lol.
it looks like if they moved out, and i kept the house and had to pay for daycare,i would be broke as a joke, but i could pull it off.... if she took over the payments for her jeep i would be in decent shape.
i wouldnt have a lot of money to throw around, but i wouldnt be eating ramin noodles and burning newspaper in a metal traqshcan either
Ive been going over some figures, i never realized how expencive my wife and stepson were.
lol.
it looks like if they moved out, and i kept the house and had to pay for daycare,i would be broke as a joke, but i could pull it off.... if she took over the payments for her jeep i would be in decent shape.
i wouldnt have a lot of money to throw around, but i wouldnt be eating ramin noodles and burning newspaper in a metal traqshcan either
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Ketchum & Killem
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im pretty sure she would.
she would have no chance of qualifying for a loan on it though, her cerdit is garbage. I dunno how the whole insurance thing would work cuse if she aint my wife im not buying her insurance.
do you have to own a car to insure yourself on it? lol
she would have no chance of qualifying for a loan on it though, her cerdit is garbage. I dunno how the whole insurance thing would work cuse if she aint my wife im not buying her insurance.
do you have to own a car to insure yourself on it? lol
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sorry jack! i know it not as big but I can sorta cope with the woman issues. i am a month after a breakup of a relationship for 2 years and 4 months...my heart was in that relationship, then got ripped out and stepped on. havent been able to talk to her since. the best part is she is going around telling people i cheated on her to make her feel better..
p.s. i am almost done with a website for everyone to vent their drama. (thedramavent.com) i think it's needed
p.s. i am almost done with a website for everyone to vent their drama. (thedramavent.com) i think it's needed
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im pretty sure she would.
she would have no chance of qualifying for a loan on it though, her cerdit is garbage. I dunno how the whole insurance thing would work cuse if she aint my wife im not buying her insurance.
do you have to own a car to insure yourself on it? lol
she would have no chance of qualifying for a loan on it though, her cerdit is garbage. I dunno how the whole insurance thing would work cuse if she aint my wife im not buying her insurance.
do you have to own a car to insure yourself on it? lol
banzai
Joined: Apr 2007
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From: South Jersey
Sorry to hear about this Jack. I just went through a similar situation, but not as half as hard. You'll make it through buddy.
You know what they say, the best way to get over someone, is get under someone. Or in your case, over someone, or eh.. you know what i mean. **** someone else. lol.
Best of luck to you and Logan. You two have gone through much worse from what I've seen, this should be easy considering what you have gone through in the past.
Feel better already?
You know what they say, the best way to get over someone, is get under someone. Or in your case, over someone, or eh.. you know what i mean. **** someone else. lol.
Best of luck to you and Logan. You two have gone through much worse from what I've seen, this should be easy considering what you have gone through in the past.
Feel better already?
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