Why break-ups suck.
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02-16-2006 | 03:10 PM
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Why break-ups suck.
Breakups don't suck so much bc of the brakup itself. Not so much the fact that you're not seeing the other person anymore.
They suck because you think of what it took to meet the girl, talk to her, joke with her, get her to like you, spend the money and time on her, think of gifts to buy her, think of new ways to make her smile. Effort...lots and lots of effort put into relationships.
And then you gotta do it all over again.
I understand springs' hurt bc I spent 6 months nearly falling in love with a girl and knowing that it wont work with us sucks bc...all those jokes I told to her...all the time I spent w/ her...I have to do again with someone else..I gotta "start over" in a sense.
Any input?
They suck because you think of what it took to meet the girl, talk to her, joke with her, get her to like you, spend the money and time on her, think of gifts to buy her, think of new ways to make her smile. Effort...lots and lots of effort put into relationships.
And then you gotta do it all over again.
I understand springs' hurt bc I spent 6 months nearly falling in love with a girl and knowing that it wont work with us sucks bc...all those jokes I told to her...all the time I spent w/ her...I have to do again with someone else..I gotta "start over" in a sense.
Any input?
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02-16-2006 | 03:22 PM
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Originally Posted by whitethunder46
^^^ Amennn bro.... amen
and to clarify...I didnt mean that u spend time being fake, rather you spend time being yourself. and THEN u gotta do it all over again. Kinda like in those old arcade games where u get to such a high level...and then you lose. Alotta times u dont feel like trying to get there again bc it took so long
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02-16-2006 | 03:31 PM
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Yah purestang is right on this one.
All in all, F'em.
Seriously. Dont let yerself fall for one, especially if yer under 25. When i got my first girlfriend Lara (lost my virginity to her) i was 19 (yeah go ahead and laugh) i thought she was the one for me.
Then she dumped my *** because i cheated on her with Sharon.
Then came Misako
And then Junko
And then Lynn
And then Harla
And then Meighan
And then Chenoa
And then Becki
And then Shelby
And then Torie
And then Amy
And then Sherry
and who knows what next.
And those are only the girls who i was in a commited relationship with. That doesent include girls i briefly dated.
Women are a dime a dozen and so are we.
If you can find 1 woman that is interested in you, then that means a good amount of them are going to be interested in you as well, cause they aall generally look for the same thing.
Take yer time, go out and have fun, dont limit yourself to a single girl right off the bat. There will be plenty of time to be old and married later in life.
And like purestand said, if you have to TRY to get her to like you then yer messing up. Normally i just ignore them and it drives them nuts. But i never try to be something im not, or act a way i normally dont. Life is too short for me to play those games.
Just be yourself and girls will gravitate towards you. if you TRY to get them to like you they will see nothing but insecurity.
Oh yah,. little side note for all you feminists......
You know why men make more than women in the same job with same experience?
Cause we spend all that extra goddamn money on the women, so dont bitch that men make more, it all comes back to you in the end.
All in all, F'em.
Seriously. Dont let yerself fall for one, especially if yer under 25. When i got my first girlfriend Lara (lost my virginity to her) i was 19 (yeah go ahead and laugh) i thought she was the one for me.
Then she dumped my *** because i cheated on her with Sharon.
Then came Misako
And then Junko
And then Lynn
And then Harla
And then Meighan
And then Chenoa
And then Becki
And then Shelby
And then Torie
And then Amy
And then Sherry
and who knows what next.
And those are only the girls who i was in a commited relationship with. That doesent include girls i briefly dated.
Women are a dime a dozen and so are we.
If you can find 1 woman that is interested in you, then that means a good amount of them are going to be interested in you as well, cause they aall generally look for the same thing.
Take yer time, go out and have fun, dont limit yourself to a single girl right off the bat. There will be plenty of time to be old and married later in life.
And like purestand said, if you have to TRY to get her to like you then yer messing up. Normally i just ignore them and it drives them nuts. But i never try to be something im not, or act a way i normally dont. Life is too short for me to play those games.
Just be yourself and girls will gravitate towards you. if you TRY to get them to like you they will see nothing but insecurity.
Oh yah,. little side note for all you feminists......
You know why men make more than women in the same job with same experience?
Cause we spend all that extra goddamn money on the women, so dont bitch that men make more, it all comes back to you in the end.
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02-16-2006 | 03:36 PM
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I also never implied that anyone has to TRY to get anyone to like them. what I meant with that is...well, why would you buy a girl a gift....or pay for her movies or food....or open the door for her....or talk to her on the phone at night...or drive to her place to see her...it's all stuff that gets her to like you.
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02-16-2006 | 03:41 PM
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Originally Posted by dannyb785
and to clarify...I didnt mean that u spend time being fake, rather you spend time being yourself. and THEN u gotta do it all over again. Kinda like in those old arcade games where u get to such a high level...and then you lose. Alotta times u dont feel like trying to get there again bc it took so long
Dude, you are looking at this ENTIRELY wrong.
Ok, i dunno if were talking about you or springs, but tell ya what, yer not sitting there building some incredible thing just to have it ripped out from under you. That is the WRONG way to look at it.
What springstang needs to do is look at it like this, "Ok that was fun, i hit it, i know what it was like, now that it is over, i gotta go see what is around the corner cause im dying to know"
This entire thing probably hurts like a ****, but none the less, it is an opportuinity to go out and meet new girls. The first relationships are always gonna be total failures. Expereince is key, and you cannot get experience by w2asting time with the same girl. Its time for him to toss her worthless *** aside and go meet some new girls. I met Springstang, trust me, this kid is gonna be a freakin don juan.
You gotta look at the end of a relationship for what it is, the end of a RELATIONSHIP, not life, not the world, not of all that matters, just a relationship.
If it doesent work it it is not worth yer time. You gain experience from it, then when it is over, move on, find the next one, and learn more.
They say all is fair in love and war. Well, in war, if you sit around without moving yer gonna get yer *** shot off, same goes with love. Once yer a veteran, you can risk not moving. <grin>
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02-16-2006 | 03:42 PM
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Originally Posted by dannyb785
I also never implied that anyone has to TRY to get anyone to like them. what I meant with that is...well, why would you buy a girl a gift....or pay for her movies or food....or open the door for her....or talk to her on the phone at night...or drive to her place to see her...it's all stuff that gets her to like you.
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02-16-2006 | 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted by dannyb785
I guess it depends on your lifestyle and outlook on life. To some, it's all about hitting it. to others, its about a relationship. So thats really the deciding factor: what you're trying to get out of it.
I really hope yer not suggesting what i think yer suggesting, or else im going to be highly insulted.
My parents are still together. Married once, never devorced. My mother was 30 and my father wwas 35. Still together today.
That is what i want. That is also why im picky. I want the whole goddamn american dream.
The fact i dont hold some cute sweet girl on a big ****in pedistal has nothing to do with my motioves or intentions, rather than my experience.
I dont know how many times i have seen some cute nice sweet girl turn out the be the most ignorant rotten little **** in the planet.
Knock the ***** off a pedistal, realize women for what they are, HUMAN BEINGS perfectly being capable of irrational thought.
Ive dated some great girls and some bad ones, but it tell ya what, there were a couple times i coulda gotten married and i garauntee my life would have turned into living hell.
There is NOTHING wrong with learning about women and getting some experience. If you meet a girl and spend time with her and yer telling yerself "this is the girl im gonna marry" you might as well end the relationship right then and there and keep off the women untill yer comfortable enough with yourelf and confidant enough to be able to look at an awesome girl and say "lets get to know her a bit more" instead of "gonna marry you" cause that "gonna marry you" attitude is gonna **** you every time. trust me.
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02-16-2006 | 03:57 PM
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Originally Posted by 4.6 Love
Hell yeah, It's not the fact that you broke up, its just that you wasted all that time and money on an undeserving bitch...
Wasted money?......
ok, so in this situation who wasted money and what was the cause?
If YOU were in a relationship that went sour, then you wasted all your money you spend on her? Wasted it how? What was the end result you were looking for when you spent the money? MARRIGE?
LOL
If you spend the money just to have a good time with the girl then you diddnt waste anything.
If you spent money expecting the relationship to blossom to love and turn into a happily ever after type thing, then yeah you wasted that money.
It all depends on where that money is getting you. Fun with her in the now? or the whole 9 yards? Personally, i spend money on girls cause i want to, and i dont feel like they owe me anything because spend some money for us to have some fun.
maybe its an age thing, i dunno.
If you had fun when you spent the money, i certainly wouldnt call it wasted.
Now, if yer stupid enough to pay off her credit card debts, buy her a car, and put her through college and she dumps you when she gets a job, then yer just a chump.
#14
02-16-2006 | 09:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Jack The Ripper
Yah purestang is right on this one.
All in all, F'em.
Seriously. Dont let yerself fall for one, especially if yer under 25. When i got my first girlfriend Lara (lost my virginity to her) i was 19 (yeah go ahead and laugh) i thought she was the one for me.
Then she dumped my *** because i cheated on her with Sharon.
Then came Misako
And then Junko
And then Lynn
And then Harla
And then Meighan
And then Chenoa
And then Becki
And then Shelby
And then Torie
And then Amy
And then Sherry
and who knows what next.
And those are only the girls who i was in a commited relationship with. That doesent include girls i briefly dated.
Women are a dime a dozen and so are we.
If you can find 1 woman that is interested in you, then that means a good amount of them are going to be interested in you as well, cause they aall generally look for the same thing.
Take yer time, go out and have fun, dont limit yourself to a single girl right off the bat. There will be plenty of time to be old and married later in life.
And like purestand said, if you have to TRY to get her to like you then yer messing up. Normally i just ignore them and it drives them nuts. But i never try to be something im not, or act a way i normally dont. Life is too short for me to play those games.
Just be yourself and girls will gravitate towards you. if you TRY to get them to like you they will see nothing but insecurity.
Oh yah,. little side note for all you feminists......
You know why men make more than women in the same job with same experience?
Cause we spend all that extra goddamn money on the women, so dont bitch that men make more, it all comes back to you in the end.
All in all, F'em.
Seriously. Dont let yerself fall for one, especially if yer under 25. When i got my first girlfriend Lara (lost my virginity to her) i was 19 (yeah go ahead and laugh) i thought she was the one for me.
Then she dumped my *** because i cheated on her with Sharon.
Then came Misako
And then Junko
And then Lynn
And then Harla
And then Meighan
And then Chenoa
And then Becki
And then Shelby
And then Torie
And then Amy
And then Sherry
and who knows what next.
And those are only the girls who i was in a commited relationship with. That doesent include girls i briefly dated.
Women are a dime a dozen and so are we.
If you can find 1 woman that is interested in you, then that means a good amount of them are going to be interested in you as well, cause they aall generally look for the same thing.
Take yer time, go out and have fun, dont limit yourself to a single girl right off the bat. There will be plenty of time to be old and married later in life.
And like purestand said, if you have to TRY to get her to like you then yer messing up. Normally i just ignore them and it drives them nuts. But i never try to be something im not, or act a way i normally dont. Life is too short for me to play those games.
Just be yourself and girls will gravitate towards you. if you TRY to get them to like you they will see nothing but insecurity.
Oh yah,. little side note for all you feminists......
You know why men make more than women in the same job with same experience?
Cause we spend all that extra goddamn money on the women, so dont bitch that men make more, it all comes back to you in the end.
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02-16-2006 | 09:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Grimmz
What kinda names are those? did you just f' a whole indian tribe or something...where's Running Mist...and Playswit SelfDaily...
HAHAHAHAHAHA thats the funniest **** ive read all night!!!!!!!
Well, Junko and Misako were japanese, this was back when i was in...well.. japan.
Chenoa IS an indian name, means dove or some **** like that.
meighan is just megan but spelled different so she would feel special.
Harla is short for harlaquin. Ugly name in my view.
Acutally, noq that i think of it, some of the standard names ive never dated. Never a kelly, or jennifer, or ashleigh, or anything like that... wierd.....
I DID have a buddy who was dating a girl named Morning-Star once. <laugh>
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02-17-2006 | 05:47 AM
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Great post, I think I screwed myself in my last relationship because I had the whole, "wow, shes the one" mentality. Now, dont get me wrong, but I was only 17 when we started dating, maybe I was (and still am) too young and of course it was great at first, but you definately watch someone change when you are with them for almost two years. I think the worst thing was that she expected to be surprised, like, all the damn time, and anytime one of our friends did something sweet for his gf, or a girl told her about something her bf did, I swear, I would be like "great, now we get to have the thoughfulness conversation now..." I dunno, she is a great chick, but like most young girls, she doesnt have a damn clue what she wants in life, and is going to have to find that out probably the hard way. Oh well, life goes on, and its funny what you actually realize when you finally pull your head out of the sand after two months of being down in the dumps. Life goes on, nothing is "wasted" persay, because every relationship makes you learn something about yourself, and gives you something to go onto the next one with. Like, there are things that I know I want in my next relationship from my previous. Although I have to admit, having a girlfriend that will point out that there is a Competition Orange cobra in the parking lot across the street is kinda cool...
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02-17-2006 | 07:06 AM
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Everything happens for a reason. If I would of never screwed up when I was a teenager I would of never met my wife. Thats life and you need to learn it so you can prepare when you really start living when you are an adult. Its obvious that your girlfriend did not love you as much as you loved her its painful to hear but true. What you need to do is not open yourself for a big fall. Here are some simple questions:
Do you know her family?
Do you know all her friends?
Does she hang out with her friends but you cant come along?
Girls night out?
Is she sometimes busy and cant expalin why?
Does she seem distant and uninterested in your conversations?
Clubing or Bars (nothing good comes out of this)?
If you want a serious relationship you need to be looking into these questions. Im sure there were signs that something was up. In your next relationship and trust me there will be a next dont force expectations on her,keep your images of wedding bells to yourself until you know how she feels as you may have scared her away from you.
Do you know her family?
Do you know all her friends?
Does she hang out with her friends but you cant come along?
Girls night out?
Is she sometimes busy and cant expalin why?
Does she seem distant and uninterested in your conversations?
Clubing or Bars (nothing good comes out of this)?
If you want a serious relationship you need to be looking into these questions. Im sure there were signs that something was up. In your next relationship and trust me there will be a next dont force expectations on her,keep your images of wedding bells to yourself until you know how she feels as you may have scared her away from you.
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02-17-2006 | 07:16 AM
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Originally Posted by madmatt
Although I have to admit, having a girlfriend that will point out that there is a Competition Orange cobra in the parking lot across the street is kinda cool...
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