Counting our first date (June 6, 1976!), wifey and I have been together 33 years, married for 30 in September 2009. It hasn't always been easy, but when we look back, we have done pretty well.


The number 1 thing is to be honest with each other. A working relationship is a two way street.
If you are having an argument.. be careful what you wish for, you might get it.
Admit when you are wrong, but don't gloat when you are right.
Communicate, communciate, communicate!
Surprise her with a card, a small gift or flowers when you are not on her "**** list".

 

We're honest and open with each other, if I do something that bothers her she tells me. If she does something that bothers me, I tell her. If you don't tell someone that something bothers/annoys you then they'll never know and eventually you'll start thinking that they're intentionally trying to annoy you and it just all goes down hill from there.

I like things a certain way, and the same goes for her. We have to meet in the middle on some things, but when you can stick to your same, normal routine it just makes things so much easier.

 

if all else fails, put her in the kitchen, then put a big red stripe of tape across the floor in front of her.

tell her that everything on that side is hers, and everything on your side is yours.

 

yeah what everyone else said + resist the temptation to chris brown her *** in the first week....."these are all perfectly normal feelings"

 

Havokk, You've gotten a lot of good advice, and some comical ones too. This is actually a very important stage in your relationship, and trying to find your soulmate.. You'll know in the next year maybe less if she's the one for marriage and family..

I let one of my GF's move in with me when I was in my 20's and it took me 4 years to realize what a mistake it was. I left her and let her have the rent. Then I moved in with my last GF and we were married 1 year later. Been married for 17 yrs now, and I couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

We don't always get along but we realize that we are soulmates, and I don't think we will ever be without each other as long as we are alive.. It might take a little time to get comfortable enough with each other to let the small stuff go. And even the big problems aren't enough to cause a breakdown.

Good luck, and you will know before long if you made the right choice, but it's a step you need to make before you make it legal.. Divorce is a terrible thing, but breaking up is only hard to do..

 

I'm doin it. That's pretty funny man. Thanks a bunch guys, i appreciate it.

 

Hahaha, that's just me, though.

Another one I thought of last night: Please try to make sure your toenails are trimmed so you won't slice her legs off under the covers. I know that is funny sounding, but I seriously mean it. Toenail grooming is a must.

 

Sounds like a personal problem...

 

It works both ways; watch out for her talons too!

 

Havokk, what do your friends think about it? I know when I first moved in with Steven 4 years ago when I was 19, a lot of them were like 'oh, don't let a bitch move in with you'. But all of them were single and they were ******* losers... nothing's changed on their end, hahaha.

 

Thats exactly what they say too. 'don't do it' 'she's just a bitch man'... whatever. It's like you said... they're all single, getting in trouble; losers. They don't hold me back. Her friends are all supportive though? None of it affect us really.

 

Congrats man! good luck. There has been alot of good advice on here. You both are gonna have to compromise in areas so just be ready for that.

 

Plan ahead

If you want to go hang out with your buddies plan it in advance and let your girl know before hand. Calling and saying that you are going to go see your friends after work is like a slap in the face when she has been planning to surprise you with a nice dinner when you get home.

Oh and if she likes flowers buy them for no reason

 

Yes, flowers for no reason is always good.

 

Also from my observations when chocolate covered strawberries, whipped cream and champange are used together they make girls horny.

This is in no way considered manipulation cause trust me she really will want it

 

Is it all women or is it just Kaelin... I bring her flowers for no reason really and instead of loving them, even though they do make her smile, she'll spend all night trying to figure out why i got them for her. It's like 20 questions.

 

Lol, I am guilty of that. Why? What did you do? Until I'm convinced that there really wasn't a reason and he was just being sweet.

 

I've gotten that one before too

"Here baby, these are for you"
"The're pretty..... wait.... what did you do?"
"I'm pretty sure I got you flowers"
"Yeah I know... why?"
"Do I need a reason?"
"generally"

 

...or

"Here babe"
'What are these for'
"You're welcome"
'Thank you'
"uh huh"

(making babies)

'I knew there was a reason'
"Whatever!"

 

LOL! There ya go!

 

run!

 

What works for my girlfriend and I is telling each other what bothers us that the other one does. I guess that falls under honesty and communication, which as you can tell, are vital for two people to live together. I think that some things you have to let go, but it depends. If it constantly bothers you, tell her. My girlfriend will leaver her backpack, and shoes right by the bar in the living room. I just bring it to her attention that we have a spot for our backpacks by the desk in our spare room, not in a mad way, but just to remind her. Same with the shoes, although I let that slide most of the time. She will leave the light on by the washer and dryer, I've told her a gazillion times, but now it's just funny because she can't remember for the life of her to turn that light off. So I try to catch her leaving it on and laugh at her, but maybe someday she will start to remember to turn it off.

So, Communication, Compromise, Honesty, Sharing, those come to mind quickly. Try to understand where she is comming from. Admit to your mistakes and when your wrong. Tell her when she does something right and tell her how much you appreciate her. When she is doing the dishes, cooking, laundry, cleaning, ask if there is anything you can help with. Chances are she will say no and just be happy you tried to help, or while she is folding clothes, just grab some towles and start folding or put them up after she is done folding. Same with the dishes, if they need to be washed just do it, she will appreciate it. After a while, if not already, you will love to help her out with stuff and knowing you made it a little easier on her.

I strongly agree with never going to bed mad, the silent treatment, or anything like that. Talk it out no matter how difficult or how late. It needs to be dealt with.

 

Well, first, you're gonna have to lay down the law. Tell her shes doing all the cooking and cleaning, and that you'd like for her to put your house slippers on for you after a hard days work. Oh, and friday nights always steak night. mondays are bbq ribs. Those are the most important things. Oh. And make her fold your unmentionables and put them with your socks. ALWAYS. Lay that down and let her pick it up. See how it goes. If its too heavy for her....well. You're probably gonna have to kill her cats. : /


My girlfriend does absolutely NOTHING like that.
But I aim to change things soon.......someday.

 

Well, she moved in with me you guys; been with me since friday now. So far I'm really happy. She seems to love it... putting her stuff around the house, smiling she's been so cute lately. I helped her move her stuff- she had some very nice things by the way. My place looks really good now. I love her so much, but its almost time to call it 'quits' with the stang. My insurance went up again. I'm paying $486 a month for insurance, plus $405 a month for the car. I'm getting frusterated with it and I can't help but think how nice our life would be if I had that extra $1000 a month you know?!

 

why is your ins. so expensive

 

yea, damn that is a shitload for insurance, mines in the 200s range

 

You paid $20k + for your V6??

What kind of driving record do you have for your insurance to be that high?

 

Age, 3 tickets: speeding, Mustang, not at fault accident, & an at fault accident. Which is funny, because i took the lady who hit me to court. Sewed her for the deductible & won. But i end up at fault for the accident through the insurance. Go figure. It sucks though guys, & as much as i would hate to part with it... well you know how that goes.

WNRacing: Ya, paid 20k for it. It was a mistake, we all make 'em. It was between the stang and a house and I got stupid. I'm 2 miles from work. I could walk to work.

 

my fiancee paid like 20 for her v6, but then again shes a girl and my cobra scares her.

 

can't you take the traffic class to get your insurance down.