She's Mov'n In, Any Advice?
 

Speaks for itself really. My other half is moving in on the fifth of June. Any advice... other than don't let her???

You made a good choice letting her move in with you and not the other way around. I've seen too many break ups where the guy moved in with the girl, they broke up, and then he was out of a place to live till he found a new place.

From a girl's point of view; just try to compromise with each other. Try to make things fair and try to share the chores. If either one of you notices that something needs to be done, just go ahead and do it to avoid any nagging from the other. Let each other have freedom and privacy and you should be good to go.

That's all I can think of for now. I'll post up more as they come to me.

Congratulations, hun. I hope this works out great for you and Lil' Mama. :D

I was going to say something along the same lines. :)

So +1

Pray!!

lmao, do some of that ^^

Everyone says to ignore the little things... I'm completely the opposite. If something bothers you, tell her. Even if it's something stupid, like she puts your tooth brush in the drawer and you want it on the counter by the sink. Don't be an ass about it, just tell her "this is how I do it, please don't do that." Trust me, you'll thank me later for that one. It's the little things that make people crazy, the big things typically go away pretty quickly because you'll get in a fight about it, get all of your emotions out, then make up.. The little shit just builds up and turns into even bigger shit, then eventually you'll explode and it turns into a big mess.

Keep the lines of communication open, trust me.. There will be issues, two people trying to live together is much, much different than "she's at my place all the time."

Other than that, just don't change much of anything. Learn to live with each other, not just live around the other person. You'll have to work out your schedules, when you like to wake up/ go to sleep and the same goes for her. It's interesting, tough at first, but it get's easier.

I don't have any advice, just wanted to say congrats!

it will be a year jun 1st that me and my girl have lived together on our own and it has been amazing. Just like everyone has said comprimise with one another and don't let the little things come to constant nagging because it will tear your relationship to shit. Hope all works well.

I couldn't have said it better myself. Good job and good advice, Evan. :)

Run, as fast as you can.

oh I forgot...PROZAC!!

Awww. Thanks black Sunshine.You have 3 modes. Very Sweet, Very aggrivated, & very wierd!:p But i do reall appreciate your advice. WNRacing: Thanks a bunch, I liked every word- love your signature picture by the way. Thanks King. I think Mustangrn had the best advice though guys... 'PRAY'. I'm nervous about this whole thing you know.

Hahahahahahahahahah... ass. :p

Hmmm... Drugs & praying, just what are you up to lady!

now you'll have someone there to cook for you and wash your laundry

Shit I wish Brandon! I do all the damn cooking. (sigh) meals are so much better when all you have to do is eat them & make terds.:rolleyes:

lol, you have to train her man.

Im lucky because I don't have to do anything my fiancee already loves to cook and gets angry if i try to help.

Lol, for some reason "Run, Forrest, Run!" popped in my head.

one word of advice for you.....Communication!

15 years with the same woman... 3 keys:

1. don't go to bed mad at each other. If you can't solve it, let it go and be happy to be next to her.
2. communicate openly. A lie of omission is still a lie so tell her what you need her to do and do what she needs you to do. That said:
3. don't try to change someone, don't let them try to change you. You are who you are and the keepers let you be you. You can change behaviours, not who someone is.

I agree with the rest of what evan said, but not that part so much.

it isnt "ignore the little things" but "dont let the little things bother you"

you both do things different ways, if you are letting her move in you cant nag her at every moment because she put your toothbrush in the wrong spot. If something as minor as that really bugs you that much you shouldnt be living with anyone yet.

my wife does all kinds of stuff that would have annoyed me when i was younger. a lot of it i just couldnt care less about anymore. Like, she has no fucking idea how to use the coat closet. The entire concept of hanging up a jacket to her is equally as confusing as quantum theory. In fact, on an average day ill fine 2 hoodies, a sweater, a jacket and a coat all draped across every chair-back in the house. every morning while im at home and she is at work ill hang it all back up, knowing she is just gonna pull it all back out.

when i was younger that would have bothered the crap out of me. Now i just let it go and i really dont let it bug me. Smaller things like that will eventually seem less important.

make sure you talk to her on the bigger issues, honestly if everytime something is "just not so" then she is gonna take a hike cause she will get tired of being nagged.

Save the "please dont do it this way or that way" for matters that are actually important. Pick and choose your battles man.

it is your house, but you are having her move in, and you need to respect her ways as much as you expect her to respect your ways.

It can be great living with yer girl! Good luck!

My biggest bit of advice is that now you two live together, try to refer to things as "ours" instead of "my."

After 17 years of marriage, it's a crap shoot!! Don't give up too easily on yourselves, it's hard work but it's worth it. You're gonna fight, you're gonna make mistakes and have regrets, that's life, have fun don't take it too seriously it's only temporary. :D

P.S.
I've had a lousy week with work and my health and if it wasn't for my husband it would be a helluva lot worse.

When I refer to the stang, it's mine. Now on our SUV my wife still slips and says my car and I say ours since I do pay half teh payment. haha. I agree with Jack though. The small stuff you just have to let go. Sometimes you just aren't going to win. The only thing that really bugs me is my wife likes to leave her clothes all over the floor. I'm not talking about a shirt here or pants there, it's like the damp laundry basket exploded all over the room. Communication is key though. It's really not all that bad. We still have our independance.

Id just make sure she is the one before you move in...otherwise it will end badly.

Damn, thats some good advice from a bunch of "young whipper-snappers"
Blend all that together and the next thing you know you'll be having a 50th and you wont even know it. Good Luck and be HAPPY and enjoy!

Step 1: Place her toothbrush on the toilet seat.
Step 2: Attach a note that says, "My toothbrush in the drawer = Your toothbrush on the toilet. You decide where you want your toothbrush."

lmao

^^^^^:D

look up Unforgivable on youtube, there's 4 parts to it i think. the guy has great advice