How long to wait....
 

Well, I met this girl at this bar friday night I went upto her asked her to dance, so we danced.. to make a long story short at the end of the night I asked for her number.. and we exchanged numbers, I even drove her home to find out she lives 5-10 min from me.. I dropped her off and she said "you better call me" I said "I will".. this was friday, I texted her on sunday saying whats up she didnt respond.. I called her tonight and left a message saying hey when you get this gimme a call me back.. and havent heard from her.. I was talkin to my buddy and he said I blew it by not calling her the next day... what you guys think?? she seemed big time interested and she wasnt drinking that night because she had to wake up early..

You lose.

I don't know if there is a golden wait rule, but I usually give it two days. One day comes across needy. Two days comes across that you have a life, but are interested. I've never tried three days..

You probably shoulda called her or at least text her on Saturday, she may have wanted to have a date with you then.. But there's always different rules to this game, and they are always changing.. Maybe you shoulda tried for a nightcap on Friday... ;)

ya, I wasnt able to do anything on saturday i was busy but.. well see what happens.. its all good :)

ok, you texted sunday and called monday... not bad. now if i were you, i wouldn't call or text her for a few more days. actually, i would call one more time a full week after you met her. any more then that you stop looking as an intrested guy and more and more as a creepy guy.

The whole rule bullshit is retarded. I always called girls I liked that I met the next day or 2 and it always works out. The whole wait a few days crap is retarded.

Agreed.

Since I am a girl, I will give you my idea, and maybe Mustangrn will come and back me up on this.

If you meet a girl and she seems into you and literally tells you that you 'better call her', you can safely call her the next day. If we like you, it won't be 'needy' to call us the day after. If you don't call us, we may get the impression that you do not like us that much. And for f*cks sake, call the damn girl, do not text. Texting would lose massive amounts of points with me. Calling and speaking to us is much more personal. Texting is more... detached.

Now, if you don't call the day after and wait maybe a day or two, that is fine. If we really like you and are looking forward to hearing from you, we may forgive you for it. But if you meet us and tell us you'll call us and wait more than two days, you lose, like PCola said. We'll have the impression that you're really not that into us.

To sum up, if you meet a girl, get her number, and you genuinely feel she's into you, call her the day after. Leave her a message if she doesn't answer. If she's into you the way you think she is, she will call you back.

spike cant wait for the sex so 10 mins after he drops a girl off he drives back and parks 2 or 3 houses down and calls her again

If i met a girl like that and said those things to me i would of just called the next night and did another bar thing with her. so, you drove this girl home and she seemed a little interested and you didnt make any moves....personally i would of made a move to secure the deal and if it backfired, than, hey at least i tried. seems like you are regretting not trying to make something happen that night.

the whole waiting thing is retarded...i just give them a call the next day if i remember too.

FAIL!!!!

u should of text her as soon as u got home manye (which was after u dropped her off)

You never know, if she was really interested in you shes not going to forget about you right away just because you didn't call the next day. There's a possibility she lost her phone. That happened to me once i called left a message... nothing on day 3 of no response I was just like fuck it and then to my surprise I finally got a call about 5 days later explaining what happened. Next time I saw her she did have a new phone so it wasn't a BS story

Nah i told her to text me after she got home because she was going to originally take a cab.. but i offered I ride to her when I dropped her off I forgot to mention she was with 2 other friends... I told her she didnt have to text me I know she got home safe.. then she said Ok, you better call me!

I think you should have called her the next day also. You drove her home, she told you to call her, she wasn't even drunk. But I also don't think it's that big of a deal, is call her again soon and if you still don't get an answer, leave a message and leave it up to her.

id give my left nut to know what girls think for one day! ill never understand em!

i dont know about giving up one of the boys but women are nuts and unpredictable.

Thanks! I'll take that as a compliment! :D

Being predictable and sane make for a boring-ass person and an even more boring-ass life.

I did call her and left a message last night.. i dont understand she said "you better call be because everytime Ive given a guy my number theyve never called me" so I text and called and she doesnt call back? its all a game!

she has u in check man, lol

I wouldn't have texted, but that may just me me. I think you have to call and establish a relationship whether it be friendship or more before you can text.

Ill give her one more call tomorrow... if she doesnt answer ill leave a message if she doesnt call back screw her..

You're right. That's basically what I said in my first post. Texting first is too detached. Calling and speaking is much more personal.

Good. That's what you should do. If she likes you, she will call you back. If she doesn't, then the hell with her. Move onto the next one.

the thing is I already called and left a message last night.. you think it would be forcing it sort of speak to call back tomorrow or w/e and leave another message?

Yes.

Yes. If she wants to call you she will. Don't call her again unless she calls you back in the meantime.

You should leave a letter in her mailbox that says, "I saw you ignore my call last night, lock your doors."

That'll teach her.














hahahaha. just kidding.

I wouldn't leave another message. If you call again hang up when it gets to voicemail otherwise she might think your creepy/stalkerish leaving all these voicemails

well see then, I did all that I could do... it is what it is

this thread will help you out. https://mustangboards.com/lounge/332...eards-lol.html

just watch the videos.

haha i watched them earlier............ not that im gonna do that stuff or anything...

UPDATE
 

well she texted me and ill let you guys pick at it...

"Hey Mike I got your message. I've been going through some shit the past few days, its a really long story but im in no place to date anyone right now. Im sorry.. I had a great time dancing with you.."

I havent responded back and I dont think I will and should.. what you guys think typical... "im not ready"/ "I dont want a boyfriend responce.."

I think it is a pretty clear indication she is not interested.

dont take it personally. she just might actually have a lot of shit going on.


as for waiting, thats a bunch of BS. normally when i was single and i got a girls number i would call her the next day sometime in the afternoon when convenient and keep it short and sweet"Hey i had a great time last night, i dont have time to talk rightt now but i would love to go out and get to know you a little better, how about i call you thursday and we set something up for friday?"

bam.

sucks man, but it happens. at least she is up front about it. you can text her back and be like "yeah, thats cool. we can be friends at least."


or


you can just go "date??? sweetheart, i just wanted to PIITB"

-1, just leave it as it is and move on.
'Nuff said

Ya i dont get girls.. I was 100% sure she was interested... like who says "i thought you would never ask" when I asked her for her number and shit like that.. girls r the biggest tease

ya im not goin to say shit usually i like to get the last word in but w/e it is what it is

First and foremost never try to understand women...you'll only get a headache!! Follow you guts and you'll usually do ok.

Jack is the man!!! If you call a girl the next day, depending on what you say, we usually think you are very interested which will in turn peak our interest.

If you wait much longer, we begin to think you aren't that interested and start coming up with reasons why you weren't worth our time. So by the time you get around to calling, not only have we found numerous reasons why we shouldn't be interested in you, we have also called all our girlfriends who are backing us up and telling us how you weren't that great to start with.

This situation reaks of a girl that was on the fence over some dude and thought you might be a good replacement. He called first.

well, i guess i know to call the next day... I called 2 days after, didnt really know it made a big difference...

CALL THE NEXT DAY DONT BE SCARED !!!!!

now i know