soo i somehow got on my girlfriends myspace but before i tell this i just want everyone to know that we've been dating for 10months and its been great but some ruff times. i do trust her, love her, care alot for her. so anyway i got on it(not like i done this before) and hit the inbox button and read a message... a few months ago she went to her friends party at a hotel( i knew about this) and around 1a.m i went and got her and she stayed the nigth w/me at my parents other place. so back to the myspace thing. i read it and this guy she knew before added her and sent her a message saying if she rememberd him and they had classes together. she replied with yeah but dont you remember at the party? and he said hey, yeah i definetly remember a.j's party. u got me in a lot of trouble lol you probly didnt know it though, after that night i always wanted to ask you if you wanted to go hang out or somthing but i never did, i guess its kinda late for that one know lol. so do you have anything going on back in indiana other than school and also who is this garret guy ? she then said

sorry.. i didnt mean anything by it. i thought you were a pretty cool guy, and i knew you and chey were dating. i guess i made her pretty mad for some reason and Garrett is my boyfriend, he is amazing. we've been dating for ...10 months for us.
do you have a girl yet?

then he replied w/some crap.

needless to say i confronted her about it. i was thinking "wtf, this was about 2months ago and we've been together for 10months. "

anyway i guess it was the party she had before this one before we met.


its not like i went on searching to find something about that. or anything, **** i was trying to upload a pic.

she has asked me about stuff and ive told her no and then someone would tell her something then she would ask me again :|

so anyway i did what i usually do to calm myself. take the stang for a ride. i got lucky tonight though, i was doing 70 and was putting a cd in and looked down then back up and their were 7-8 deer on the left side of the road 8" away from my car.

 

Gotta ask how old are you sir?

All i'm gonna say is there are going to be a ton of women in your life and if you're under say I don't know 25-30 ish you probably aren't with "The One" And you shouldn't have read anything on her myspace. You open your self to a world of "**** you don't wanna know" Reading someones emails or myspace messages. In fact, myspace is the digital retarded equivilant of the devil.

My advice to you... Worry about school or work, your car, your family and friends. Any girl problem will eventually take care of it's self.

 

i agree with him. i wouldnt worry too much about a 10 month relationship, if she cheats or even if u do....u gotta b what like 20 ide say(just a guess) so yea....im tellin u, shes just another girl.

however ide say if u read their emails, then u DO know whats goin on behind ur back. wouldnt advise it either but its good to know. so i kinda have mixed feelins about bein nosey like that. could b good, could b bad.

best the luck

 

I did the same thing a while back. I was dating this girl for 3 1/2 years. We were both 16 when we started dating. After she turned 18 she started making these new friends where she worked and she started acting strange sometimes. She would go to her friends parties and I was fine with it. Whatever I'd go hang out with my friends or tinker on my car for a bit. Then one time I asked her if I could go with her cause I had nothing to do. She said her friends weren't expecting me to come and she didn't feel comfortable just showing up with me. That got me kinda suspicious. I had her myspace pw for a long time and never felt tempted to use it. So I went on there and read some messages from her "best" friend who happened to be one of the people from her work. There was a huge message between them about whether or not shes made the decision to choose me or Matt. Or if she was even going to tell me what happened between her and Matt. Just reading it I was furious. So I found out what I didn't want to know. She cheated on me and was comtemplating leaving me for him. Before she had the chance i ended it for her but I took the ***** way out and said one of her friends told me :P I felt like a jackass for reading her private messages, and I wont do it again. Like someone above me said. Reading stuff like that could be good or it could be bad. I'd rather things just work out like they're supposed to and I dont have any "behind the scenes" info.

 

eh, sorry for that **** man. btw, me and girlfriend are alright now. lol. i know she wouldnt cheat on me cause she's not that type. she's the kind that wants a lasting relationship. plus im cool with her parents and etc... ha. her moms cooking mmmmmmmmmm

 

I have always seen my girls' myspace's. And until i am older I always will. I spend my time and money on these girls, so I hve no problem seeing what they do and who they talk to behind my back. I have been able to end two relationships with girls who were cheating on me because of seeing the ****. Of course it's nothing you WANT to see. But if I am giving up time and money for them. I WILL know

 

I dont wanna be a negative nancy but my ex didnt seem like the type to cheat either. She always told me to never cheat on her. I guess she was really insecure. And obviously she was into long relationships too, I was with her for 3 1/2 years lol. But we were still pretty young. When it all ended she was 18 with all her highschool drama still attached. I've never looked back after getting out of that one lol.

Now I've got a new girl that I'm engaged to so it worked out for the best for me. And like you I'm cool with her parents. Her step dad races his firebird thats fast as hell. But he still gives me those comments about how Ford sucks. You know, the comments every GM owner like to give to Ford guys. lol.

 

hmmmm and about the last paragrapgh. my girl's dad is the same way... her mom has a camaro and her dad has a S/C Grandprix GTP. and gives me **** about fords.... i'd like to see him give a mach1 with TT **** or a Cobra.

 

wow you talk like they were your property or something

 

I think you should have respected your girlfriends privacy and not even looked at her myspace but closed it instead.

im sure A.J. had more than one party, and from what he was saying he apparently realized she was taken now and was just curiious about you.

My advice is next time close that **** and dont look at it. Without the full story you could easily misconstrue something into being something terrible when nothing actually happened.

Hell, im married and i refuse to poke through my wifes Myspace. There is some privacy that people should be able to have.

and yah, dude, you aint gonna marry this chick, yer young, this is not a long relationship, dont sweat it too much just try to have some fun

 

my g/f and i keep everything honest. we know each others passwords for stuff, always honest with each other and each have very strict rules that we have for ourselves.... it works out very well; has for the last 2 years. i enjoy being completely honest and faithful; im not one of those "guys are going to look, don't worry, i know not to touch" guys. In my opinion, don't even look!
so, yea, thats how my relationship works. :-D

as for "do you think what i did was wrong?" no, not at all. i think you are totally justified in getting mad for finding it and bringing it up.... i cant stand the argument "You invaded my privacy!" ach, its a relationship man, you shouldn't have to hide anything, if you are, you probably shouldn't have done it

just my .02 c

 

IN my opinion. No you did nothing wrong. My view on what a relationship is, is that you can't have anything to hide. I am open with girls in the beginning of relationship. And when the time comes I want to check a myspace I always tell them first hand. It usually spreads off of something like they tell me last week they went over to a friends house and were with them all night, let's say on Tuesday. And then they have a comment on their page that says "Tuesday night was awesome, that party was sweet." They usually give me **** and say "You need to trust me, dont look at my page" and argue about it later. Then a few hours later they tell me I can. I know they deleted ****, and they did, but what both of them forgot about is that when you delete messages they go into a trash folder. LOL. And yes, I expect this in return to. If a girlfriend asks to see my page I type in the password and let them have at it. I figure if you don't have anything to hide on there, why not let someone see it. All it will do is help the whole trust issue.

 

nothin personal but i really hate this advice...i've come to realize in my wisdom that looking back if there is one bit of advice i wish i had ignored its this one...all the guys from my older brothers to my dad who used to dismiss every relationship i ever had a problem with by sayin,"**** it kid...youre too young anyway...girls will come and go"... that teaches a guy to play the field..in retrospect, i lost a lotta good girls by dumpin them at the first bump...who knows what would be if i had stayed and fought...i used to get mad when pop would say that to my kid sister....i was like, "what, you want her to be a ****? get out there and experiment? wtf kinda advice is that?" i made her stay with her second boyfriend and now they are happily married with a kid...dont ever leave a girl JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE YOUNG...sure there are reasons to leave but dont let anyone dismiss your feelings because somehow they dont matter at your age...thats bunk...thats why soceity is so fucked up now...revolving relationships...that advice is why i'm so screwed up now..buncha empty bed buddies and no real love


as far as myspace goes...screw that...there is a thing called respect and privacy and then there is a thing called being a fool...

 

she gave up that right with that vow to love honor and RESPECT...in my opinion..no way in hell should a wife expect to keep a myspace from her husband...cause there is nothin that any other guy should be allowed to see that a husband cant...if she wants it private she shouldnt put it on the internet