what a ****ing asshole
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07-26-2006 | 08:16 PM
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what a ****ing *******
Notice im going to try and spell everything correctly!
So im at work today chillin behind the counter talking to my boss. A well dressed man walks in, so i go up and ask him if he needs any help. He says yes, I want to do some modifications to my car but i dont want to n*$%^r it up and be like a black person.I said, "excuse me come again". He repeated the same exact phrase.
I pretended to ignore it and showed him a magazine which had parts that he could order for his truck. As he was looking threw he came to a section where u could get custom grilles and said, "see that wut N%$$%^#d up is" and then said the N word about another 5 times once he got to the page which had rims on it. At this point i was getting very pissed of how disrespectful this man was being. So i let my boss deal with him. He made a huge mistake saying that infront of my boss he got his *** thrown outa the store with allot of foul words coming from my boss's mouth to the man.
I was just wondering if anyone has ever encountered such an arrogant, stupid, and disrespectful person before.
What would u guys have done in my position?
So im at work today chillin behind the counter talking to my boss. A well dressed man walks in, so i go up and ask him if he needs any help. He says yes, I want to do some modifications to my car but i dont want to n*$%^r it up and be like a black person.I said, "excuse me come again". He repeated the same exact phrase.
I pretended to ignore it and showed him a magazine which had parts that he could order for his truck. As he was looking threw he came to a section where u could get custom grilles and said, "see that wut N%$$%^#d up is" and then said the N word about another 5 times once he got to the page which had rims on it. At this point i was getting very pissed of how disrespectful this man was being. So i let my boss deal with him. He made a huge mistake saying that infront of my boss he got his *** thrown outa the store with allot of foul words coming from my boss's mouth to the man.
I was just wondering if anyone has ever encountered such an arrogant, stupid, and disrespectful person before.
What would u guys have done in my position?
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07-26-2006 | 08:19 PM
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That was your worst encounter with a direspectful person?
Damn, you need to take a trip down south sometime.
Personally, I would have said "Well atleast the n*$@(# stuff looks better than your gay hillbillly 34 year old truck that you had sex with your retarded sister in."
Damn, you need to take a trip down south sometime.
Personally, I would have said "Well atleast the n*$@(# stuff looks better than your gay hillbillly 34 year old truck that you had sex with your retarded sister in."
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07-26-2006 | 08:21 PM
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wow that's horrible man. I can't believe he actually said that....and several times! wow.
You did the right thing by letting your boss handle it. Nice job man
You did the right thing by letting your boss handle it. Nice job man
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07-26-2006 | 08:31 PM
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LOL. Im gonna be honest, i know a lot of the jokes, ive lived with a guy who ras racist as all hell even though his girlfriend was Korean. You dont even wanna know what he reffered to her behind her back....
What ive learned from these people is they are all just Ignorant miserable ****s who dont want to take any responsibility for thier own life and would rather sit around and complain. Most of them are pretty insecure and they want to feel like a part of something. Be it KKK, Neo ****'s, Badfish, National Alliance, or just yer average every day dumb white racist.
Honestly i hear N Bombs from black people a helovalot more than white people, then again, white people really kind of lost that privledge. LOL.
I really dont know any active racists (example, the type of guy who would go to an autoparts store and start throwing down N-bombs) that have actually made it anywhere in life or achieved anything.
Hell, look at the KKK. Thats the biggest bunch of rednecks ive ever seen, saw em on TV in ohio at the state capitol preaching thier stupidity. Hell, they are such rednecks they make greg look like a Californian IP director. LMAO It is the same dumb crap, over and over.
I think there is a degree of prejudice in most people. Prejudice does not mean Racism, rather than forming opinions on another person because of race or religion which can definatly manefest itself into racism. Then again, this works in all directions. You see how Dave Chapelle imitates white people, and he is pretty far off target from me and a lot of my friends.
I dunno if anyone watches the show the boondocks, but they tackle the whole racism thing quite a bit. The writers seem to feel that black people should have a way to identify with other black people IE: the hiphop cubculture, but at the same time denounce it because a lot of the hip-hop stars that are being thrust into the forefront have been or still are criminals who rap about crime. People like my parents see that and it bothers and scares them to a degree, so they start to associate black people as being like 50cent, tupac, and icecube, rather than Denzel washington, Michael Jordan, and James Earl Jones who seem to have taken a step back in the whole limelight.
well ill probably get flamed for something here. But yeah man, you handled it well, you dont ever have to put up with some idiots ignorance.
What ive learned from these people is they are all just Ignorant miserable ****s who dont want to take any responsibility for thier own life and would rather sit around and complain. Most of them are pretty insecure and they want to feel like a part of something. Be it KKK, Neo ****'s, Badfish, National Alliance, or just yer average every day dumb white racist.
Honestly i hear N Bombs from black people a helovalot more than white people, then again, white people really kind of lost that privledge. LOL.
I really dont know any active racists (example, the type of guy who would go to an autoparts store and start throwing down N-bombs) that have actually made it anywhere in life or achieved anything.
Hell, look at the KKK. Thats the biggest bunch of rednecks ive ever seen, saw em on TV in ohio at the state capitol preaching thier stupidity. Hell, they are such rednecks they make greg look like a Californian IP director. LMAO It is the same dumb crap, over and over.
I think there is a degree of prejudice in most people. Prejudice does not mean Racism, rather than forming opinions on another person because of race or religion which can definatly manefest itself into racism. Then again, this works in all directions. You see how Dave Chapelle imitates white people, and he is pretty far off target from me and a lot of my friends.
I dunno if anyone watches the show the boondocks, but they tackle the whole racism thing quite a bit. The writers seem to feel that black people should have a way to identify with other black people IE: the hiphop cubculture, but at the same time denounce it because a lot of the hip-hop stars that are being thrust into the forefront have been or still are criminals who rap about crime. People like my parents see that and it bothers and scares them to a degree, so they start to associate black people as being like 50cent, tupac, and icecube, rather than Denzel washington, Michael Jordan, and James Earl Jones who seem to have taken a step back in the whole limelight.
well ill probably get flamed for something here. But yeah man, you handled it well, you dont ever have to put up with some idiots ignorance.
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07-26-2006 | 08:36 PM
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"Oh no, 3 black people...hit them with their own vernacular, makes them feel more comfortable. Say, give him a hug if he's into getting rub, I heard that on the radio on the way up here....tell him it's his birthday, and then say you don't give a **** that it's his birthday!"
LOL, dave chappelle is the best. He did a great job of making racial issues public and making everyone face them.
LOL, dave chappelle is the best. He did a great job of making racial issues public and making everyone face them.
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07-26-2006 | 08:38 PM
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Good move getting your manager involved. IMO you handled it 100% correctly.
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07-26-2006 | 08:40 PM
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Well, since you or your boss didn't knock him on @$$, I am going to assume that neither of you are african american. Based on that assumption, I don't really understand why you are getting all bent out of shape. Why would that offend you? Of course, that was your and your boss' prerogative to refuse service to the guy, but he was a potential paying customer.
You didn't say how old the guy was, but usually the older gentlemen tend to be less racial sensitive due to the times in which they grew up. It is embedded in them. You would think that a younger person would be a little more sensitive due to the times in which we live and how much of an issue it has become.
While not being a racist, something like that would not bother me, as I am not african american. If he was not referring to me, it shouldn't offend me. Not to mention that I believe we all know what he was referring to anyway, in terms of how certain vehicles look. It's not a stereotype, I just call it like I see it.
You didn't say how old the guy was, but usually the older gentlemen tend to be less racial sensitive due to the times in which they grew up. It is embedded in them. You would think that a younger person would be a little more sensitive due to the times in which we live and how much of an issue it has become.
While not being a racist, something like that would not bother me, as I am not african american. If he was not referring to me, it shouldn't offend me. Not to mention that I believe we all know what he was referring to anyway, in terms of how certain vehicles look. It's not a stereotype, I just call it like I see it.
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07-26-2006 | 08:42 PM
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Originally Posted by 96TangerineBossGT
Well, since you or your boss didn't knock him on @$$, I am going to assume that neither of you are african american. Based on that assumption, I don't really understand why you are getting all bent out of shape. Why would that offend you? Of course, that was your and your boss' prerogative to refuse service to the guy, but he was a potential paying customer.
You didn't say how old the guy was, but usually the older gentlemen tend to be less racial sensitive due to the times in which they grew up. It is embedded in them. You would think that a younger person would be a little more sensitive due to the times in which we live and how much of an issue it has become.
While not being a racist, something like that would not bother me, as I am not african american. If he was not referring to me, it shouldn't offend me. Not to mention that I believe we all know what he was referring to anyway, in terms of how certain vehicles look. It's not a stereotype, I just call it like I see it.
You didn't say how old the guy was, but usually the older gentlemen tend to be less racial sensitive due to the times in which they grew up. It is embedded in them. You would think that a younger person would be a little more sensitive due to the times in which we live and how much of an issue it has become.
While not being a racist, something like that would not bother me, as I am not african american. If he was not referring to me, it shouldn't offend me. Not to mention that I believe we all know what he was referring to anyway, in terms of how certain vehicles look. It's not a stereotype, I just call it like I see it.
the guy was prob in his 30's
And as for y it bothered me that is so disrespectful idc if im african american or not its ****ed up and should never be said
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07-26-2006 | 08:47 PM
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Originally Posted by stang00
the guy was prob in his 30's
And as for y it bothered me that is so disrespectful idc if im african american or not its ****ed up and should never be said
And as for y it bothered me that is so disrespectful idc if im african american or not its ****ed up and should never be said
Anyone see that movie Crash?
thought it was pretty amusing that part with Ludacris getting all mad and bend out of shape cause sandra bullock pulled her purse closer to her when he walked by, just to see him finish his conversation and carjack an escalade from some dude. LOL
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07-26-2006 | 08:54 PM
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Originally Posted by stang00
the guy was prob in his 30's
And as for y it bothered me that is so disrespectful idc if im african american or not its ****ed up and should never be said
And as for y it bothered me that is so disrespectful idc if im african american or not its ****ed up and should never be said
Again, just calling it like I see it.
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07-26-2006 | 11:04 PM
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Originally Posted by 96TangerineBossGT
But its ok for african americans to say it to each other? That double standard is what is ****ed up. They get all offended if a person of another race says it, but if they say it, it is ok. If you look up the definition of the word in the dictionary, it could be applied a person of any race anyway. It's just that because of the history of the US, it has a negative connotation. It's not our fault what happened ~300 years ago. And do I feel like I owe anyone anything, HELL NO. What happened, happened. That is part of what makes the US what it is today. But do a lot of (not all) african americans think that they are owed something, HELL YES. And you all know what I am talking about.
Again, just calling it like I see it.
Again, just calling it like I see it.
Being black doesn't make me feel like i'm owed anything. I look at it like this....i came in this world with nothing and i'm taking nothing when i leave. I don't owe anybody anything and i'm not owed anything. Stang00 you did the right thing with getting your manager. I would have just knocked him out but then again....i don't think he would have said it to me either.
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07-26-2006 | 11:05 PM
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the 3rd time he said it i would of kicked him out
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07-26-2006 | 11:14 PM
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my grandma said it when i put rims on my car...but they dont know any better
and they live down south in the ATL...lol
and they live down south in the ATL...lol
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07-26-2006 | 11:38 PM
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Calling black people "African americans" is retarded IMO .... africa isn't the only country black people are from. That'd be like calling white americans "European americans"
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07-27-2006 | 12:26 AM
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all i gotto say is becareful, when i was 16 i worked at a pizza hut, and a guy came in and was acting very rude, well the manager cussed him out and threw him out, the guy turned out to be an attorney and sued pizza hut for $2,000,000.00 and won. He also go my manager fired and all the employees kept getting questioned and we were watched by head quarter managers for about a year.
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07-27-2006 | 01:00 AM
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I don't use or allow the "N" word around me. I know that some black people use this word and I don't think that is right. In fact, I think that when they use this term, they are personally rolling back the clocks and setting us back 50 years.
I have had customers use it on ocassion in front of me and I just generally ignore it. There is no sense in getting into a heated conversation with an ignorant person and I am not out to change the world. I just try to lead my example and not by lecturing.
I have a 4 yr old and a 9 yr old and we avoid any conversation of color in the house. I don't allow them to refer to anyone as "balck" or any other color. When it comes up we say "we are all the same color on the inside" and leave it at that.
If I was the guy at the counter, I might have indicated that he was being inappropriate at a place of business. I might have asked him to leave by asking that if he can't change his behavior to please leave. But, I would have never blown-up on him and used swear words etc... It is fair game to ask someone to change their behavior, but you are not going to get them to change theyr feelings.
I have had customers use it on ocassion in front of me and I just generally ignore it. There is no sense in getting into a heated conversation with an ignorant person and I am not out to change the world. I just try to lead my example and not by lecturing.
I have a 4 yr old and a 9 yr old and we avoid any conversation of color in the house. I don't allow them to refer to anyone as "balck" or any other color. When it comes up we say "we are all the same color on the inside" and leave it at that.
If I was the guy at the counter, I might have indicated that he was being inappropriate at a place of business. I might have asked him to leave by asking that if he can't change his behavior to please leave. But, I would have never blown-up on him and used swear words etc... It is fair game to ask someone to change their behavior, but you are not going to get them to change theyr feelings.
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07-27-2006 | 01:30 AM
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Good call on the manager thing....You should have told him to go kill himself so he can go back in time and visit all the undereducated people that think like he does. I agree.....What an @sshole.
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07-27-2006 | 09:11 AM
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Originally Posted by 96TangerineBossGT
But its ok for african americans to say it to each other? That double standard is what is ****ed up. They get all offended if a person of another race says it, but if they say it, it is ok. If you look up the definition of the word in the dictionary, it could be applied a person of any race anyway. It's just that because of the history of the US, it has a negative connotation. It's not our fault what happened ~300 years ago. And do I feel like I owe anyone anything, HELL NO. What happened, happened. That is part of what makes the US what it is today. But do a lot of (not all) african americans think that they are owed something, HELL YES. And you all know what I am talking about.
Again, just calling it like I see it.
Again, just calling it like I see it.
the double standard is fine if they use the word its as a social gestur if a white person says it most of the time we are trying to degrade them and say that we are better
i would have loved to meet that guy someone place outside of my job his *** would have gotten beat by a fat kid
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07-27-2006 | 09:20 AM
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I used to build custom trucks and stereo installs. We would run across other peoples work or hell..even our work sometimes and say it was N***** rigged. We were not using it in a disprespectful way but it is just a common phrase around here and everywhere I think. Just sucks when you slip up and say it around a black person...most of the time they would say..well it's true.
But good job on your part man. You did the right thing.
But good job on your part man. You did the right thing.
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07-27-2006 | 09:31 AM
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You should have gotten crunk!
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07-27-2006 | 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted by 4.6 Love
You should have gotten crunk!
Hyphy=Crazy
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07-27-2006 | 12:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Slither
I used to build custom trucks and stereo installs. We would run across other peoples work or hell..even our work sometimes and say it was N***** rigged. We were not using it in a disprespectful way but it is just a common phrase around here and everywhere I think. Just sucks when you slip up and say it around a black person...most of the time they would say..well it's true.
But good job on your part man. You did the right thing.
But good job on your part man. You did the right thing.
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07-27-2006 | 12:31 PM
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Originally Posted by PColav6
Calling black people "African americans" is retarded IMO .... africa isn't the only country black people are from. That'd be like calling white americans "European americans"
#24
07-27-2006 | 12:58 PM
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umm i say it all the time, i think its funny, then again i think most racial slurs are funny, they are just words. . . . I duno i think i woul have just sold him some stuff that wasnt super-ghetto style or w/e and be done with it. Its like people that get bent out of shape about cursewords etc.
Oh well, some people are just uptight, cultures are diffrent etc
Oh well, some people are just uptight, cultures are diffrent etc
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07-27-2006 | 01:22 PM
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if u say iot joking around its still disrecpectful but if ur saying it to try and degrade a person its defidently wrong and that is wut this man was doding especially cause he made it a point that he said it enough times for me to hear him
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07-27-2006 | 02:32 PM
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No offense to anyone, but im with teal on this one they are just words, black people use it all the time why cant white people use it. and here in Iowa that is the daily thing. I dont think i go one day without hearing or using a racial slur.
Wow if only Greg wasnt banned, i wonder wat he'd say.
Wow if only Greg wasnt banned, i wonder wat he'd say.
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07-27-2006 | 02:47 PM
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Lol... my Grandma is very much a southerner and calls em "Colored Folk". No point in trying to change her. However, she always used phrases that my mother caught onto. My mom never really though about what the phrases meant either, as it was just a cliche/euphanism she heared her whole life. Well, being her son i also heared such phrases and never really thought about the origin of them.
This caused quite a bit of embarassment.
I was in the military re-wiring a communications room with my Supervisor SSgt Turner who is by chance black.
I had a bag of cashews sittin on a chair that i was munching on and from time to time Ssgt Turner would swipe some. I started to get annoyed and an old phrase that my grandma said, that my mom said, came to me and i says to him "Get yo cottin pickin fingers out of there!"
Needless to say, it caused quite a response in SSgt Turner and i had no idea why. Then it dawn on me. Once he saw how embarassed i was and how much i felt like an idiot we had a good laught about it.
Nothing was worse than the time where i was walking to the Class 6 liquer store, i saw my buddy A1C Steve Kuhns playing basketball with a bunch of black guys, he sees me, i see him, and i shout out "Yo Whaddup Kuhns!" Which they heared as "Yo Whaddup Coons??"... man that basketball jsut fell to the ground and bounced away. i had 6 people lookin like they wanted to kill me, Kuhns was trying his hardest not to laugh at the misunderstanding and let it just ride for a few because he saw how uncomfortable i was lookin all of the sudden, then he told them his last name was Kuhns....
lol......
This caused quite a bit of embarassment.
I was in the military re-wiring a communications room with my Supervisor SSgt Turner who is by chance black.
I had a bag of cashews sittin on a chair that i was munching on and from time to time Ssgt Turner would swipe some. I started to get annoyed and an old phrase that my grandma said, that my mom said, came to me and i says to him "Get yo cottin pickin fingers out of there!"
Needless to say, it caused quite a response in SSgt Turner and i had no idea why. Then it dawn on me. Once he saw how embarassed i was and how much i felt like an idiot we had a good laught about it.
Nothing was worse than the time where i was walking to the Class 6 liquer store, i saw my buddy A1C Steve Kuhns playing basketball with a bunch of black guys, he sees me, i see him, and i shout out "Yo Whaddup Kuhns!" Which they heared as "Yo Whaddup Coons??"... man that basketball jsut fell to the ground and bounced away. i had 6 people lookin like they wanted to kill me, Kuhns was trying his hardest not to laugh at the misunderstanding and let it just ride for a few because he saw how uncomfortable i was lookin all of the sudden, then he told them his last name was Kuhns....
lol......
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07-27-2006 | 02:47 PM
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i tlked to greeg wanna no what his responce was
RedneckGreg3263: whats the most confusing dau in harlem?
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RedneckGreg3263: whats the most confusing dau in harlem?
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#29
07-27-2006 | 03:18 PM
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What I often see is that ppl like that tend to assume those of the same color feel the same as they do. I think you did the right thing in demonstrating that the fearful, ignorant racists statements/phrases/stereotypes he made are not socially acceptable or tolerated.
I've often found myself sitting around shooting $hit with the ppl I work with, when eventually, while joking around, a racial or religious crack will be made. With racial jokes, I let them know that I find them offensive. Most religious jokes I hear are about jews, I'll let them know I'm jewish by birth. I love to watch how people start to back pedal on that one like, "oh, I didn't mean anything by that, no offense ok?", or, "wow, really, you don't look jewish." I just tell them yeah, we stopped wearing Star of David patches on our sleeves back in the 40s...
I've often found myself sitting around shooting $hit with the ppl I work with, when eventually, while joking around, a racial or religious crack will be made. With racial jokes, I let them know that I find them offensive. Most religious jokes I hear are about jews, I'll let them know I'm jewish by birth. I love to watch how people start to back pedal on that one like, "oh, I didn't mean anything by that, no offense ok?", or, "wow, really, you don't look jewish." I just tell them yeah, we stopped wearing Star of David patches on our sleeves back in the 40s...
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07-27-2006 | 03:34 PM
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Originally Posted by stang00
if u say iot joking around its still disrecpectful but if ur saying it to try and degrade a person its defidently wrong and that is wut this man was doding especially cause he made it a point that he said it enough times for me to hear him
Not meaning anything by it, just calling it like I see it.