G/F problems.

red281gt · 10-25-2006, 12:57 PM

So yeah my girlfriend and i are on a break now because she needs her time. but i found out some crazy shit that she has gotten in the drug scene tryin stuff. basicly i confronted her about this stuff but at first she denied it but then she amitted it and said she tried coke once. i mean i knew something was up for a bit i first thought maybe she found someone else but nope it is much bigger than that. Basically this is when she told me we needed a break from another, im guessing she did this cuz right now she isn't in the best mentel state cuz if things that are going with her mom and dad, and other stuff, She still tells me that she is in love with me and that there would neve be anyone else and wouldnt do anything else with anyone on the break. geeze i hope so. but she does want help with how she feels inside and all she wasnts to be is happy with her self. God this is so hard for me.

any advice?

red281gt · 10-25-2006, 12:59 PM

she told be that she just needs her space for her self for that the most a few weeks. but i dunno

3V2000GT · 10-25-2006, 01:00 PM

Tell her that there is no reason to EVER turn to drugs no matter how bad her situation is with her parents or anything

If it was me I would slap her around a bit for even trying coke

red281gt · 10-25-2006, 01:07 PM

i know that what i told her she swore to me that she wouldn't try or do any other drug or alchol <spell error> but im just worried about her well being and my feelings. i told her that would be here for her and help her through anything. I told her that it crossed my mind to brake up with her cuz of it and told her that i would not date nor marry anyone who used any kind of drug.(but yeah we have seriously talked about marrage and we both would want to get hitched in the neer future) when i told her that she started to cry. i just pray to god that she stays away from the stuff and the people who are around it.

Icefreezen · 10-25-2006, 01:14 PM

Its the coke talking put her in rehab quick

Slither · 10-25-2006, 01:16 PM

Man that is horrible about everything you are going through and her. I can't really give any advice on the drug part but as far as the break thing...she gave you a time limit right? She said she needed a few weeks? From my experience that is not a good sign with they give you a certain amount of time to wait. First that makes it even harder on you because you are basically counting down the days until her break is over. Second..I don't know her but I know most girls and they are not going to say "yeah while we are on this break I am gonna go screw around" People just aren't that honest. I am not saying she would because I do not know her but just be cafeful with what she tells you from my experiences. They usually want to take a break for other reasons and they know you will be there waiting when they come back. Just be careful and if she wants her space give it to her and don't bug her about what she did during that time. Play it cool and you will look like a good guy in the end even though it killed you during that time...she will never know. Good luck

red281gt · 10-25-2006, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Icefreezen

Its the coke talking put her in rehab quick

well im going to put it across her mom to have her randomally drug tested for a few months, cuz i told her mom the whole story and she has talked to the g/f.

jjtgiants · 10-25-2006, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by red281gt

well im going to put it across her mom to have her randomally drug tested for a few months, cuz i told her mom the whole story and she has talked to the g/f.

Good for you man....I would have done the same thing. Once people get hooked on stuff it's damn hard for them to just quit. Your g/f might be pissed off at you for telling on her, but she'll thank you later.

10-25-2006, 02:29 PM

"i just need some space lets take a break"

Yah. the relationship is over. she feels yer holding her back, she wants to do coke and party. she aint coming back.

tell her parents what she has been doing, it is about the only good thing you can do for her.

*venom* · 10-25-2006, 02:32 PM

Im not sure if you are sexualy active with ther but if its a possibility that she may be with someone else or inject drugs or even worse why taking drugs hace someone take advantage of her I would have an aids test done a few months down the line to protect yourself. Id rather have an ex over asking her to do this then a death sentence. Just be careful and open yours eyes wide open and see whats going around.

GREG@SN95 · 10-25-2006, 03:48 PM

thats sucks

spike_africa · 10-25-2006, 03:51 PM

drugs are the easy way out.

10-25-2006, 04:19 PM

Been in the same situations many times.

By statistics, 9 out of every 10 couples that "Seperate" never reunite. My ex fiance and I seperated, she said she needed her space, she would tell me it was becasue of school problems and things around the house. I was pretty mad about it and the first few days after the break up, we would keep in touch, but after like a week I basicually told her to **** off. To me a break up is like she can go around looking for other things, be able to talk to another guy, yet not feel as if she "cheated" on you, and lets say she dosn't find another guy she knows she can always run back to you. That would always run through my mind, after about a week into the seperation i told her to **** off and get the **** out of my life. I didn't call/text/im her NOTHING. I would ignore her calls, ignored everything. After like two weeks she came crying back to me, begging for me back, going crazy for me back. I accepted her back but it wasn't the same, less then a week later I dumped her because I just couldn't trust her and had a feeling in the back of my mind she would do it again, i just couldn't ever look at her the same. I also found out through one of her best friends that durring our seperation she was really talking to some other guy but that guy didn't like her.

If you really want her back, do the same, ignore the hell out of her. Tell her to **** off, tell her your not going to put up with a seperation and the drama. And ignor her, Girls hate to be ignored. You will see how she will feel lonely and run back to you.

*4.6 Love* · 10-25-2006, 04:48 PM

That sucks dude, I'm thinking your relationship with her is over. Her needing time off from you usually means she's got someone else or is in the motion of acquiring one. Anywas, I see that you are 21. I would just suck it up and let her go. There are plenty of girls out there that are drama free....IMHO this is how you should handle it. Let her get her time alone, and don't call her at all. If she really wants something with you she'll call you back.

PS: I would also follow venom's advice..

10-25-2006, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by SpinMedia

Been in the same situations many times.

By statistics, 9 out of every 10 couples that "Seperate" never reunite. My ex fiance and I seperated, she said she needed her space, she would tell me it was becasue of school problems and things around the house. I was pretty mad about it and the first few days after the break up, we would keep in touch, but after like a week I basicually told her to **** off. To me a break up is like she can go around looking for other things, be able to talk to another guy, yet not feel as if she "cheated" on you, and lets say she dosn't find another guy she knows she can always run back to you. That would always run through my mind, after about a week into the seperation i told her to **** off and get the **** out of my life. I didn't call/text/im her NOTHING. I would ignore her calls, ignored everything. After like two weeks she came crying back to me, begging for me back, going crazy for me back. I accepted her back but it wasn't the same, less then a week later I dumped her because I just couldn't trust her and had a feeling in the back of my mind she would do it again, i just couldn't ever look at her the same. I also found out through one of her best friends that durring our seperation she was really talking to some other guy but that guy didn't like her.

If you really want her back, do the same, ignore the hell out of her. Tell her to **** off, tell her your not going to put up with a seperation and the drama. And ignor her, Girls hate to be ignored. You will see how she will feel lonely and run back to you.

Hell yeah man, I couldnt have said it better myself.

ive pulled the whole "take a break thing" myself. What I was REALLY thinking is i dont know if this relationship is what i want, but i do wanna hit that ass over there.

damn right about the ignoring thing. keeps breakups a hell of a lot nicer.

Badfish · 10-25-2006, 06:44 PM

eh ive done coke...i dont see what the hype's about...but if she''s like most people who try it, and keep doing it..she's ****ed..try to keep her away, that shit can ruin a persons life

ill admit that ive done alot of drugs...but i always researched em, learned all i could before doing them..so i stay safe, dont get addicted, etc. the only really addictive drug ive done is coke, and i have no desire to do that again. i wont touch heroin, crystal, or the rock. those are some nasty ****ers

GREG@SN95 · 10-25-2006, 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Badfish

eh ive done coke...i dont see what the hype's about...but if she''s like most people who try it, and keep doing it..she's ****ed..try to keep her away, that shit can ruin a persons life

ill admit that ive done alot of drugs...but i always researched em, learned all i could before doing them..so i stay safe, dont get addicted, etc. the only really addictive drug ive done is coke, and i have no desire to do that again. i wont touch heroin, crystal, or the rock. those are some nasty ****ers

You do acid too? lol

your brain is probably like swiss cheese... well the part of your brain that is used for driving is... lol

Mossberg · 10-25-2006, 06:55 PM

Dope is/will be her new boyfriend

stang00 · 10-25-2006, 06:56 PM

sry to say but the relationship is over the old gf i had in new jersey that i sold the mustang for pulled that bullshit with me and i found out from her sister it was for another guy ****ing sluts

10-25-2006, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by GREG@SN95

You do acid too? lol

your brain is probably like swiss cheese... well the part of your brain that is used for driving is... lol

i used to do a ton of that shit before i joined the military... no real desire to do it again

GREG@SN95 · 10-25-2006, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Jack The Ripper

i used to do a ton of that shit before i joined the military... no real desire to do it again

oh that explains alot...

but wtf is my excuse?

Badfish · 10-25-2006, 07:11 PM

yes..ive dropped a few tabs of LSD..my brain is swiss cheese? what information are you basing this off of? shit you see on TV? oh whats next, im gonna crack my back and have a flashback? cus acid drips down your spinal cord and stays there forever right?

dont beleive everything you hear

10-25-2006, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by GREG@SN95

oh that explains alot...

but wtf is my excuse?

i kinda figured moonshine. lol

GREG@SN95 · 10-26-2006, 06:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack The Ripper

i kinda figured moonshine. lol

Oh... of coarse... duh

10-25-2006, 12:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
red281gt Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alexandria VA Posts: 546	G/F problems. So yeah my girlfriend and i are on a break now because she needs her time. but i found out some crazy shit that she has gotten in the drug scene tryin stuff. basicly i confronted her about this stuff but at first she denied it but then she amitted it and said she tried coke once. i mean i knew something was up for a bit i first thought maybe she found someone else but nope it is much bigger than that. Basically this is when she told me we needed a break from another, im guessing she did this cuz right now she isn't in the best mentel state cuz if things that are going with her mom and dad, and other stuff, She still tells me that she is in love with me and that there would neve be anyone else and wouldnt do anything else with anyone on the break. geeze i hope so. but she does want help with how she feels inside and all she wasnts to be is happy with her self. God this is so hard for me. any advice? __________________ Matt Brooks Sig by me!

10-25-2006, 12:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
red281gt Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alexandria VA Posts: 546	she told be that she just needs her space for her self for that the most a few weeks. but i dunno __________________ Matt Brooks Sig by me!

10-25-2006, 01:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
3V2000GT 46MONSTER Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Wheaton, IL Posts: 2,209	Tell her that there is no reason to EVER turn to drugs no matter how bad her situation is with her parents or anything If it was me I would slap her around a bit for even trying coke __________________ 2000 GT Black on Tan, TKO 600: 370rwhp 370rwtq NA Built 3v 2004 Honda CBR 600 F4i Black/Red 2000 SVT Lightning Silver i love jinny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!! lucky is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

10-25-2006, 01:07 PM	#4 (permalink)
red281gt Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alexandria VA Posts: 546	i know that what i told her she swore to me that she wouldn't try or do any other drug or alchol <spell error> but im just worried about her well being and my feelings. i told her that would be here for her and help her through anything. I told her that it crossed my mind to brake up with her cuz of it and told her that i would not date nor marry anyone who used any kind of drug.(but yeah we have seriously talked about marrage and we both would want to get hitched in the neer future) when i told her that she started to cry. i just pray to god that she stays away from the stuff and the people who are around it. __________________ Matt Brooks Sig by me!

10-25-2006, 01:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
Icefreezen Mustang Superman Join Date: May 2005 Location: Your mom's bed Posts: 3,908	Its the coke talking put her in rehab quick __________________

10-25-2006, 01:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
Slither Elmo Rocks my Socks Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 2,161	Man that is horrible about everything you are going through and her. I can't really give any advice on the drug part but as far as the break thing...she gave you a time limit right? She said she needed a few weeks? From my experience that is not a good sign with they give you a certain amount of time to wait. First that makes it even harder on you because you are basically counting down the days until her break is over. Second..I don't know her but I know most girls and they are not going to say "yeah while we are on this break I am gonna go screw around" People just aren't that honest. I am not saying she would because I do not know her but just be cafeful with what she tells you from my experiences. They usually want to take a break for other reasons and they know you will be there waiting when they come back. Just be careful and if she wants her space give it to her and don't bug her about what she did during that time. Play it cool and you will look like a good guy in the end even though it killed you during that time...she will never know. Good luck __________________ SilverMustangs.com Website & Registry

10-25-2006, 02:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
Jack The Ripper Posts: n/a	"i just need some space lets take a break" Yah. the relationship is over. she feels yer holding her back, she wants to do coke and party. she aint coming back. tell her parents what she has been doing, it is about the only good thing you can do for her.

10-25-2006, 02:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
venom Super Moderator Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 5,504	Im not sure if you are sexualy active with ther but if its a possibility that she may be with someone else or inject drugs or even worse why taking drugs hace someone take advantage of her I would have an aids test done a few months down the line to protect yourself. Id rather have an ex over asking her to do this then a death sentence. Just be careful and open yours eyes wide open and see whats going around. __________________ http://www.mustangboards.com/mustang...500/ppuser/103

10-25-2006, 03:48 PM	#11 (permalink)
GREG@SN95 Banned Join Date: May 2006 Location: JACKSON NJ Posts: 4,135	thats sucks

10-25-2006, 03:51 PM	#12 (permalink)
spike_africa Administrator Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Orlando,Florida Posts: 7,734	drugs are the easy way out. __________________ Dustin 2002 GT Mustang 5-Speed Drag Radials,Sprayed,Powershifted WOOO HOOOO!

10-25-2006, 04:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
SpinMedia Posts: n/a	Been in the same situations many times. By statistics, 9 out of every 10 couples that "Seperate" never reunite. My ex fiance and I seperated, she said she needed her space, she would tell me it was becasue of school problems and things around the house. I was pretty mad about it and the first few days after the break up, we would keep in touch, but after like a week I basicually told her to ** off. To me a break up is like she can go around looking for other things, be able to talk to another guy, yet not feel as if she "cheated" on you, and lets say she dosn't find another guy she knows she can always run back to you. That would always run through my mind, after about a week into the seperation i told her to off and get the out of my life. I didn't call/text/im her NOTHING. I would ignore her calls, ignored everything. After like two weeks she came crying back to me, begging for me back, going crazy for me back. I accepted her back but it wasn't the same, less then a week later I dumped her because I just couldn't trust her and had a feeling in the back of my mind she would do it again, i just couldn't ever look at her the same. I also found out through one of her best friends that durring our seperation she was really talking to some other guy but that guy didn't like her. If you really want her back, do the same, ignore the hell out of her. Tell her to ** off, tell her your not going to put up with a seperation and the drama. And ignor her, Girls hate to be ignored. You will see how she will feel lonely and run back to you.

10-25-2006, 04:48 PM	#14 (permalink)
4.6 Love Super Moderator Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Mexico Posts: 6,169	That sucks dude, I'm thinking your relationship with her is over. Her needing time off from you usually means she's got someone else or is in the motion of acquiring one. Anywas, I see that you are 21. I would just suck it up and let her go. There are plenty of girls out there that are drama free....IMHO this is how you should handle it. Let her get her time alone, and don't call her at all. If she really wants something with you she'll call you back. PS: I would also follow venom's advice.. __________________ Go Cowboys! X pipe and flows

10-25-2006, 06:44 PM	#16 (permalink)
Badfish Listen to reggae. Join Date: May 2005 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 8,974	eh ive done coke...i dont see what the hype's about...but if she''s like most people who try it, and keep doing it..she's **ed..try to keep her away, that shit can ruin a persons life ill admit that ive done alot of drugs...but i always researched em, learned all i could before doing them..so i stay safe, dont get addicted, etc. the only really addictive drug ive done is coke, and i have no desire to do that again. i wont touch heroin, crystal, or the rock. those are some nasty **ers __________________ '04 2.3l Evo '86 GSXR 750

10-25-2006, 06:55 PM	#18 (permalink)
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10-25-2006, 06:56 PM	#19 (permalink)
stang00 Civic Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: brewster ny Posts: 2,577	sry to say but the relationship is over the old gf i had in new jersey that i sold the mustang for pulled that bullshit with me and i found out from her sister it was for another guy ****ing sluts __________________ 2007 civic si galaxy grey 213 WHP 176wtrq SKunk 2 70mm catback buddy club race header injen CAI hondata tb spacer kenwood 7in dvd navi head unit 2, 12in JL audio W3's JL 500\1 amp 18in bronze 5zigen pro racers (wrapped in bfg goodrich KDW2 225\40\18) Brembo dilled rotors ebc green stuff pads Hfp suspension hfp lip kit hfp fogs 5% tint red interior underglow

10-25-2006, 07:11 PM	#22 (permalink)
Badfish Listen to reggae. Join Date: May 2005 Location: Colorado Springs, CO Posts: 8,974	yes..ive dropped a few tabs of LSD..my brain is swiss cheese? what information are you basing this off of? shit you see on TV? oh whats next, im gonna crack my back and have a flashback? cus acid drips down your spinal cord and stays there forever right? dont beleive everything you hear __________________ '04 2.3l Evo '86 GSXR 750