running somethin by you guys
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11-24-2007 | 10:26 AM
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running somethin by you guys
go to pick up my girl at work....she had a rough day with some mean clients at the firm....she comes to the car with a dozen or so red roses that one of the clients sent her as a way of apologizin for being rude...i kinda flip a lil and i'm thinkin that acceptin the roses sorta sends a signal like a green light...she says it was just a friendly gesture and it doesnt mean anything....i just dont like my girl gettin flowers...am i wrong? it wasnt that big a deal but i was just thinkin about it
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11-24-2007 | 12:24 PM
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#1 - It is not as if she gave the flowers to some guy.
#2 - Glad to know that your girl might also be appealing to someone else. Take that as a compliment.
Lastly, is she ain't wearing a ring, then she does not belong to anyone. This stuff happens in the business world all the time. My wife deals with this kind of stuff fairly regulary being in sales. Guys are guys and you just have to take the gift for what she says it is. If someone else is trying to make a play, then you just have to try harder, but don't let some guy giving your gal flowers (that she did not ask for) to get between you and her.....think about it.....you do that, and the other guy wins. You look like the jerk.
What if the role was reversed? You are working with a customer who happens to be an attractive girl and she gets upset at you for messing up only to realize later that it was not your fault. To apologize, she brings in a gift. Do you keep it from your girl, or tell her about it. Either way, your might be hosed, but if you hid it, it might look like you are trying to hide something.
#2 - Glad to know that your girl might also be appealing to someone else. Take that as a compliment.
Lastly, is she ain't wearing a ring, then she does not belong to anyone. This stuff happens in the business world all the time. My wife deals with this kind of stuff fairly regulary being in sales. Guys are guys and you just have to take the gift for what she says it is. If someone else is trying to make a play, then you just have to try harder, but don't let some guy giving your gal flowers (that she did not ask for) to get between you and her.....think about it.....you do that, and the other guy wins. You look like the jerk.
What if the role was reversed? You are working with a customer who happens to be an attractive girl and she gets upset at you for messing up only to realize later that it was not your fault. To apologize, she brings in a gift. Do you keep it from your girl, or tell her about it. Either way, your might be hosed, but if you hid it, it might look like you are trying to hide something.
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11-24-2007 | 01:12 PM
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11-24-2007 | 02:55 PM
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Depends on the color of roses i guess.
EEEhhh... clients... sketchy dude, sketchy. This person who sent her the roses oughtta have enough sence to know what RED roses symbolize.
Also, in my view she should be somewhat empathatic to your standpoint and throw the roses in the trash.
Not accepting the roses is a good way to telling the client to **** off. might not be the best move professionally, but she should have the common sence to at least throw them out.
Per the info below, a boquet of pale colored roses would have been appropriate.
I dont think you have any reason to Flip out..... but i would be wondering whats up if she decides to keep them. if she cares about your feelings she should do what she can to ease yer fears.
Rosebuds symbolize beauty, youth and a heart innocent of love or: “You are young and beautiful.” Red rosebuds mean “pure and lovely” and white rosebuds signify girlhood or “too young to love.” The moss rosebud stands for confessions of love.
A single rose stands for simplicity. In full bloom, it means “I love you” or “I love you still,” and a bouquet of roses in full bloom signifies gratitude.
White roses have several meanings: “You’re heavenly,” reverence and humility, innocence and purity, “I’m worthy of you,” and secrecy and silence.
Red and white roses together, or white roses with red edges, signify unity.
Pink roses in general symbolize grace and gentility. For more subtle shades of meaning, choose deep pink to stand for gratitude and appreciation. Light pink conveys admiration and sympathy.
Yellow roses usually stand for joy and gladness, but can also say “try to care.”
Red and yellow blends stand for jovial and happy feelings.
Coral or orange roses denote enthusiasm and desire.
A deep burgundy rose means “unconscious beauty.”
Pale colors convey sociability and friendship.
Hybrid tea roses mean “I’ll remember you always” and sweetheart roses symbolize just what their name implies.
Two roses taped or wired together to form a single stem signal an engagement or coming marriage.
A full blown rose placed over two buds forms a combination that signifies secrecy.
Withered white roses have two meanings: fleeting beauty and “you made no impression.”
A crown made of roses signifies reward or virtue.
Rose leaves are a symbol of hope.
EEEhhh... clients... sketchy dude, sketchy. This person who sent her the roses oughtta have enough sence to know what RED roses symbolize.
Also, in my view she should be somewhat empathatic to your standpoint and throw the roses in the trash.
Not accepting the roses is a good way to telling the client to **** off. might not be the best move professionally, but she should have the common sence to at least throw them out.
Per the info below, a boquet of pale colored roses would have been appropriate.
I dont think you have any reason to Flip out..... but i would be wondering whats up if she decides to keep them. if she cares about your feelings she should do what she can to ease yer fears.
Red roses say “I love you” and also stand for respect and courage.
Rosebuds symbolize beauty, youth and a heart innocent of love or: “You are young and beautiful.” Red rosebuds mean “pure and lovely” and white rosebuds signify girlhood or “too young to love.” The moss rosebud stands for confessions of love.
A single rose stands for simplicity. In full bloom, it means “I love you” or “I love you still,” and a bouquet of roses in full bloom signifies gratitude.
White roses have several meanings: “You’re heavenly,” reverence and humility, innocence and purity, “I’m worthy of you,” and secrecy and silence.
Red and white roses together, or white roses with red edges, signify unity.
Pink roses in general symbolize grace and gentility. For more subtle shades of meaning, choose deep pink to stand for gratitude and appreciation. Light pink conveys admiration and sympathy.
Yellow roses usually stand for joy and gladness, but can also say “try to care.”
Red and yellow blends stand for jovial and happy feelings.
Coral or orange roses denote enthusiasm and desire.
A deep burgundy rose means “unconscious beauty.”
Pale colors convey sociability and friendship.
Hybrid tea roses mean “I’ll remember you always” and sweetheart roses symbolize just what their name implies.
Two roses taped or wired together to form a single stem signal an engagement or coming marriage.
A full blown rose placed over two buds forms a combination that signifies secrecy.
Withered white roses have two meanings: fleeting beauty and “you made no impression.”
A crown made of roses signifies reward or virtue.
Rose leaves are a symbol of hope.
#11
11-24-2007 | 02:58 PM
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My girlfriend gets hit on..a lot. I honestly just laugh it off, take it as a compliment, and rub it in their faces that she's mine.
One of my best buds actually fell in love with her. LMAO...I don't talk to him anymore.
Don't be insecure enough about your relationship to let some BS bother you.
One of my best buds actually fell in love with her. LMAO...I don't talk to him anymore.
Don't be insecure enough about your relationship to let some BS bother you.
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11-24-2007 | 03:05 PM
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11-24-2007 | 03:06 PM
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My girlfriend gets hit on..a lot. I honestly just laugh it off, take it as a compliment, and rub it in their faces that she's mine.
One of my best buds actually fell in love with her. LMAO...I don't talk to him anymore.
Don't be insecure enough about your relationship to let some BS bother you.
One of my best buds actually fell in love with her. LMAO...I don't talk to him anymore.
Don't be insecure enough about your relationship to let some BS bother you.
i know the feeling. My wife and i were driving to the liquer store the other night and a car pulled up with 2 dudes in thier early/mid 20's. they all looked over and started smiling at her untill i leaned up so they saw me and they knocked it off.
honestly it doesent bug me one bit to have guys constantly check out my wife who had a child 5 months ago. She is hot!
as long as they dont start crossing the line, and once they see that ring on thier finger i expect them to bug off
#14
11-24-2007 | 03:09 PM
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good point, because I've done the same, once. but the relationship was shitty and on the rocks. I consider her mine, because she tells me she loves (and means it) everyday. I'm comforted because I KNOW she would never do anything to hurt me, and I wouldn't either. You're right, some couples are easily torn apart...but in my case, it ain't true
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11-24-2007 | 03:13 PM
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Lol.... yah... i love that mentality that a ring is some magical item that somehow seals her devotion
it dont matter if there is a ring on her or not. what matters is her level of commitment to the relationship. There are women without a ring that wont cheat, and ones with a ring that do cheat.
The fact you made other guys girlfriend YOUR girlfriend has nothing to do with a ring, it just has to do with they were dating a bigger dirtbag than you and decided to upgrade.
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11-24-2007 | 03:40 PM
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eh ive made other men's wives my girlfriend temporarily...ring dont mean jack if the person wearing it doesn't maintain the sacredness of the vows that go along with it.
thankfully though i've never been caught...i quit that behavior about 1 year ago...i realized that stuff like that could get me killed...
thankfully though i've never been caught...i quit that behavior about 1 year ago...i realized that stuff like that could get me killed...
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11-24-2007 | 03:42 PM
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Ok. Well I asked my girlfriend and she said that you should think something about it. She said that if it was her recieving them as a apology she would take them but throw them away. She said she would accept the apology, throw the flowers away, then tell me about it.
However, I was thinking, if it was an affair deal. She could have not brought them and hid them from you.
However, I was thinking, if it was an affair deal. She could have not brought them and hid them from you.
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11-24-2007 | 03:43 PM
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never could touch another mans wife....thought of it made me sick...at least with a single chick you can pretend shes sorta pure...but guys tend to go commando in their wives and shoot loads...cant imagine tastin that and i'm a taster....its sorta like drinking from a total strangers cup
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11-24-2007 | 03:46 PM
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Ok. Well I asked my girlfriend and she said that you should think something about it. She said that if it was her recieving them as a apology she would take them but throw them away. She said she would accept the apology, throw the flowers away, then tell me about it.
However, I was thinking, if it was an affair deal. She could have not brought them and hid them from you.
However, I was thinking, if it was an affair deal. She could have not brought them and hid them from you.
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11-24-2007 | 05:19 PM
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Lol.... yah... i love that mentality that a ring is some magical item that somehow seals her devotion
it dont matter if there is a ring on her or not. what matters is her level of commitment to the relationship. There are women without a ring that wont cheat, and ones with a ring that do cheat.
The fact you made other guys girlfriend YOUR girlfriend has nothing to do with a ring, it just has to do with they were dating a bigger dirtbag than you and decided to upgrade.
it dont matter if there is a ring on her or not. what matters is her level of commitment to the relationship. There are women without a ring that wont cheat, and ones with a ring that do cheat.
The fact you made other guys girlfriend YOUR girlfriend has nothing to do with a ring, it just has to do with they were dating a bigger dirtbag than you and decided to upgrade.
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11-24-2007 | 10:50 PM
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i think the OP is insecure. im just wondering, has this happened before? if not, you need to quit freaking out and brush it off. if it's something that happened before, then you have reason to be concerned, but if this is the first time, you need to give her the benefit of the doubt, and move along.
keep an eye on it, but I'd be willing to bet if this is the first time, it's just an isolated incident and it won't happen again. if it happens again or becomes a consistent thing then you have reason to be worried.
but until you have a real reason to be worried, quit being so darn insecure and continue forward, cause if you don't, the trust thing will be a hard thing to earn back, and she will notice the change. then she'll become insecure and wont trust you, because she thinks you dont trust her, and this is when things come unraveled and it all falls apart.
good luck.
keep an eye on it, but I'd be willing to bet if this is the first time, it's just an isolated incident and it won't happen again. if it happens again or becomes a consistent thing then you have reason to be worried.
but until you have a real reason to be worried, quit being so darn insecure and continue forward, cause if you don't, the trust thing will be a hard thing to earn back, and she will notice the change. then she'll become insecure and wont trust you, because she thinks you dont trust her, and this is when things come unraveled and it all falls apart.
good luck.
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11-24-2007 | 11:38 PM
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i think the OP is insecure. im just wondering, has this happened before? if not, you need to quit freaking out and brush it off. if it's something that happened before, then you have reason to be concerned, but if this is the first time, you need to give her the benefit of the doubt, and move along.
keep an eye on it, but I'd be willing to bet if this is the first time, it's just an isolated incident and it won't happen again. if it happens again or becomes a consistent thing then you have reason to be worried.
but until you have a real reason to be worried, quit being so darn insecure and continue forward, cause if you don't, the trust thing will be a hard thing to earn back, and she will notice the change. then she'll become insecure and wont trust you, because she thinks you dont trust her, and this is when things come unraveled and it all falls apart.
good luck.
keep an eye on it, but I'd be willing to bet if this is the first time, it's just an isolated incident and it won't happen again. if it happens again or becomes a consistent thing then you have reason to be worried.
but until you have a real reason to be worried, quit being so darn insecure and continue forward, cause if you don't, the trust thing will be a hard thing to earn back, and she will notice the change. then she'll become insecure and wont trust you, because she thinks you dont trust her, and this is when things come unraveled and it all falls apart.
good luck.
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11-25-2007 | 09:02 AM
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Like is there any way she could have left them at work? Lets say she is having an affair and she got the flowers and didnt want to offend whoever gave them to her so she had to take them home. which was with a ride with you. so she had to make up a lie.
did she throw them away when yall got home or did she keep em?
did she throw them away when yall got home or did she keep em?
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11-25-2007 | 06:46 PM
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Hel man, he can find a border hopper at the ready-labor line and pay him 50 bucks for that.
Or better yet, he can pay a homeless man a sandwich to do the same task.