Had a fiend die of cancer today. Anyone who has seen this happen knows how bad things get before the end.

Started out as breast cancer, she thought she beat it several years back and kept putting off her checkups, she finally gotit checked on and it was back. So she opted for some wholistic treatment rather than chemo. They would feed her tons of vitamin C then put her in a big sock untill her body was fooled into thinking it had a fever which would kick her boosted immune system into overdrive.
She got checked out after the 6 week therapy session last winter and the cancer had gotten worse and become stage 4 cancer.
So over the past 8 months she has been fighting it with western medicine, chemo, etc. She had her boob removed, then a bunch of lymphnodes, and it kept spreadying. It got to her kidneys, liver, bones and eventually brain.
She was my close friends girlfriend. She always wanted to be married but he diddnt want to do it. Last week he had a bunch of sand brought in from seattle and they got married on the sand, she always wanted a wedding on the beach.
Anyways, that was about the last time she was truly concious, since then she has been in and out. Lying in a hospital bed in thier livingroom.
One of the last things she had said was she is going to be Logans (my son) Guardian Angel.
And this morning she finally lost the battle.

It has been a rough summer and fall. Most people are familiar with the issues with my babys heart and the surgery that diddnt work right and another one coming in a few months. With kristens failing health this has been a real brutal summer for all of us.

Time to start picking up the pieces. Several friendships in the circle of friends have been strained, a lot of emotion going on. Now we have to get things worked back out.

Cancer really does affect everyone in the persons lives, not just the person with the desiese. It is a horrible slow process of wasting away followed with a lingering helplessness before death finally comes, it has no sence of purpose or reason, and really makes a waste out of a perfectly good person.

If you havent had to go through the decline of somebody with cancer, i hope you never do. However, next time yer at the gas station and they are aksing for donations for cancer research for a dollar, hell, just dish out a dollar.

not sure the point of this thread, just trying to make sence of all this. Personally my wife and i have both felt a bit detached through this because of the problems we have had with our sons heart. Doesent make it any easier.

Cancer FTL

 

That sucks bro. May she be at peace now...

 

sorry to hear it man hope things get better for you.

 

Sorry to hear that man, seems a little unfair sometimes doesnt it? I recently found out a close friend of mine had cancer, just sad.

 

some times life just sucks
sorry to hear the bad news

 

Sorry to hear that jack. Cancer is a shitty thing and it's never fun losing someone close. My aunt died of breast cancer 2 years ago. Thought it had gone away but then it popped back up in her lungs. It's not fun watching someone in the hospital not being able to breath on their own and just waiting to die. My sympathies go out to ya man.

 

My Uncle died of brain cancer last winter while I was in basic training. It sucks.
And the shitty thing about cancer is that it is often asymptomatic until it has metastasized to other areas, particularly lymph nodes, making it inevitably deadly.

As a Medic in Nursing school, I think this is a great opportunity to remind folks about the importance of self-exams and regular check-ups with their MD. If you don't know how to do a self-exam, go see your Doc and learn. You can also get advice online if you're too modest to ask the Doc. It may very well save your life.

As a regular joe and someone who has also recently lost a loved one to cancer, I sympathize with your pain. It is a difficult thing to deal with, and I hope you find your way to handle this. Remember that support groups are available if you need them.

 

That's a shame. Cancer claims another victom, and it is a shame we can't cure all types of it. Let me say this about it though, having had cancer, I know there are no natural treatments that are reliable enough to kill cancer cells. I wish your friend would have opted for more chemo. I went through 6 months of it and it saved my life. Your body's immune system cannot fight cancer. You most kill the cancer cells, But you also kill your healthy cells in the process. Which is why chemo is so rough on people. My cancer doctor had to drill that info into my head. Chemo "can" kill you but cancer most certainly will without it. They're coming out with new drugs and they are researching and developing new drugs, but it is a tedious process. I had my chemo in 1994 and have been cancer free since. The problem is when cancer spreads beyond into other organs. Very hard to treat then.. Sorry to hear your friend lost her life. No good way to except that..

 

Yea, my dads ex, still his good friend has/had breast cancer.

Shes had it redevelop multiple times, has had cancer somewhere in her intestine, throat, and a few other places.

The poor woman lost her kids because she can't work, social security didn't want to fork over the cash she'd earned, she had to live in a homeless shelter, because she refused to stay with us, things were just horrible.

She is over the cancer, for right now, but now she has a form of arthritis and the only drug to help it out, causes cancer.

Shes the woman that I call mom, so it hits really close to home. So I feel for ya man. The only bright side I can see to it, is she doesn't have to suffer anymore.

 

My mom died at 50 due to cancer. Its a disease that I hope we find a cure for. She lasted 5 years going through treatments and it was really tough. It really changed my outlook on life.

 

I lost my mom 13 years ago to the damn stuff. Its sad to see anyone go thru that. Sometimes its best to just have it over, no more pain.

 

damn jack i'm sorry to hear all of that. it seems in times like these when ya lose a loved one it brings the whole group (family/friends) closer and i've got no doubt that all of ya'll will be there for eachother, it's just tough to deal with death. also, i've been out of the loop for a while and didn't hear about ur sons surgery not doin' what it was suppose to, hopefully they'll get it done the second time, good luck!