Another girl thread. awesome. (help me, lol)
#1
08-17-2006, 06:21 PM
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Another girl thread. awesome. (help me, lol)
ok...here's the sicheeation. i broke up with a girl who like ALOT (i even told her i loved her, i kinda do, but i also wanted to get laid 
) she moved to denver, a 45 min to an hour drive away from me. (her stepmom kicked her out, while her dad is fighting for us in iraq, its bull****) anyway, i was pretty chill about it...but she's been calling me alot latley, and im starting to realize i miss her 
alot...
so what do i do? i dont want to be like stang00 and buy a civic to drive to my girlfreind. she wants to be with me again..but thats a long *** drive..by the way, this bitch is smokin, if she wasnt, i wouldnt even be comptemplating driving to denver to see her.
should i invite her to live with me lol? i dont know if im ready to live with a chick...those of you who live with their girlfreinds (not wives) whats it like?
) she moved to denver, a 45 min to an hour drive away from me. (her stepmom kicked her out, while her dad is fighting for us in iraq, its bull****) anyway, i was pretty chill about it...but she's been calling me alot latley, and im starting to realize i miss her alot...so what do i do? i dont want to be like stang00 and buy a civic to drive to my girlfreind. she wants to be with me again..but thats a long *** drive..by the way, this bitch is smokin, if she wasnt, i wouldnt even be comptemplating driving to denver to see her.
should i invite her to live with me lol? i dont know if im ready to live with a chick...those of you who live with their girlfreinds (not wives) whats it like?
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08-17-2006, 06:27 PM
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eh i dont think my mom will care. if she lived with me, and i started to hate it...how would i kick a girl like that out without her gettign pisserd at me? that would be tough
#6
08-17-2006, 06:38 PM
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Find another one. There are tons of women out there, DONT let her move in. that would be THE WORST idea possible.
I dont want you to take any offence to this, but you and her are both young and not ready for that situation. Your interest may stray, and so may hers.
What i say is forget about her and find another one. You are not going to marry this girl, and you do NOT need her to constantly be all up in your ****, and you bet yer ***, if she moves in she will constantly be in your business.
You are young and you need to be out meeting girls and stuff. Not going on a charity case. Ive lived with girlfriends in the past and you really need to spend some time living on your own before you think of doing something like this.
like i said, there are tons of girls out there, right now im dating 3 and might be dating a 4th. About to get rid of 2 though, and if the new one doesent really impress me im going with the 3rd.
So thats my advice. It sucks for her, and it sucks for you, but there is almost a ZERO percent chance this girl will be the one you spend your life with. So why rack up the gas miles, why invite her into your home life where she WILL cause drama?
Life aint fair, too bad for her, it sucks, but it is not your responsibility, you need to experience more of life before you do something like that.
Tell her you had fun, good luck, and then go find a girl who lives in the springs and save yourself a ton of bull**** and gas.
JM
I dont want you to take any offence to this, but you and her are both young and not ready for that situation. Your interest may stray, and so may hers.
What i say is forget about her and find another one. You are not going to marry this girl, and you do NOT need her to constantly be all up in your ****, and you bet yer ***, if she moves in she will constantly be in your business.
You are young and you need to be out meeting girls and stuff. Not going on a charity case. Ive lived with girlfriends in the past and you really need to spend some time living on your own before you think of doing something like this.
like i said, there are tons of girls out there, right now im dating 3 and might be dating a 4th. About to get rid of 2 though, and if the new one doesent really impress me im going with the 3rd.
So thats my advice. It sucks for her, and it sucks for you, but there is almost a ZERO percent chance this girl will be the one you spend your life with. So why rack up the gas miles, why invite her into your home life where she WILL cause drama?
Life aint fair, too bad for her, it sucks, but it is not your responsibility, you need to experience more of life before you do something like that.
Tell her you had fun, good luck, and then go find a girl who lives in the springs and save yourself a ton of bull**** and gas.
JM
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08-17-2006, 06:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Jack The Ripper
Find another one. There are tons of women out there, DONT let her move in. that would be THE WORST idea possible.
I dont want you to take any offence to this, but you and her are both young and not ready for that situation. Your interest may stray, and so may hers.
What i say is forget about her and find another one. You are not going to marry this girl, and you do NOT need her to constantly be all up in your ****, and you bet yer ***, if she moves in she will constantly be in your business.
You are young and you need to be out meeting girls and stuff. Not going on a charity case. Ive lived with girlfriends in the past and you really need to spend some time living on your own before you think of doing something like this.
like i said, there are tons of girls out there, right now im dating 3 and might be dating a 4th. About to get rid of 2 though, and if the new one doesent really impress me im going with the 3rd.
So thats my advice. It sucks for her, and it sucks for you, but there is almost a ZERO percent chance this girl will be the one you spend your life with. So why rack up the gas miles, why invite her into your home life where she WILL cause drama?
Life aint fair, too bad for her, it sucks, but it is not your responsibility, you need to experience more of life before you do something like that.
Tell her you had fun, good luck, and then go find a girl who lives in the springs and save yourself a ton of bull**** and gas.
JM
I dont want you to take any offence to this, but you and her are both young and not ready for that situation. Your interest may stray, and so may hers.
What i say is forget about her and find another one. You are not going to marry this girl, and you do NOT need her to constantly be all up in your ****, and you bet yer ***, if she moves in she will constantly be in your business.
You are young and you need to be out meeting girls and stuff. Not going on a charity case. Ive lived with girlfriends in the past and you really need to spend some time living on your own before you think of doing something like this.
like i said, there are tons of girls out there, right now im dating 3 and might be dating a 4th. About to get rid of 2 though, and if the new one doesent really impress me im going with the 3rd.
So thats my advice. It sucks for her, and it sucks for you, but there is almost a ZERO percent chance this girl will be the one you spend your life with. So why rack up the gas miles, why invite her into your home life where she WILL cause drama?
Life aint fair, too bad for her, it sucks, but it is not your responsibility, you need to experience more of life before you do something like that.
Tell her you had fun, good luck, and then go find a girl who lives in the springs and save yourself a ton of bull**** and gas.
JM
cus it probably will happen. its alittle "darker" on that side of denver ROFL.
#10
08-17-2006, 06:45 PM
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Originally Posted by PColav6
The fact that you said "the bitch is smokin" makes it highly unlikely that you will last in a relationship with her anyway.
that's life.
that's life.
#11
08-17-2006, 06:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Badfish
thanks for the advice, ill take it into consideration. btw she lives in aurora. i sent her this when i found out:
cus it probably will happen. its alittle "darker" on that side of denver ROFL.
cus it probably will happen. its alittle "darker" on that side of denver ROFL.
Man thats some funny ****. I lived in aurora for about a year. I hated it. Unfriendly town. You got the rich and the poor marbled through eachother. And both groups dislikes the other ones so there is a lot of tension out there.
i hated it. i will never move back to aurora. L-Town is where it's at!!!!
seriously though, every single person on the board who is my age or older is going to agree with me on this one, and there is a reason for that. ive found in the 12 years ive been dating that sometimes things that look like a good idea blow the **** up right in yer face, you dont need that.
#12
08-17-2006, 06:52 PM
I live with my g/f... we wont anymore now that we are going to college, but I will be seeing her alot. She hasent slept in her real home since... may (so not too long). The only thing is we argue often, but its always about stupid **** etc. hey, we are young man... and she's pretty bangin'... speaking of banging stoned... just be sure you use a condom, even is she is on the pill...
#13
08-17-2006, 06:55 PM
john with girls who would have thought
Do not let her move in remember the bitch in nj i was in love with i was thinking bout goin down there to school and stuff to be closer with her. Not worth it people at our age change there feelings to often dont risk messing up your life over a girl like i did by selling my mustang which was coming along rele nicely
put that money ued waste on gas toward ur bumper fund cause ur sure to break another one with colorado roads
Do not let her move in remember the bitch in nj i was in love with i was thinking bout goin down there to school and stuff to be closer with her. Not worth it people at our age change there feelings to often dont risk messing up your life over a girl like i did by selling my mustang which was coming along rele nicely
put that money ued waste on gas toward ur bumper fund cause ur sure to break another one with colorado roads
#14
08-17-2006, 06:56 PM
Originally Posted by Ghostalker
I live with my g/f... we wont anymore now that we are going to college, but I will be seeing her alot. She hasent slept in her real home since... may (so not too long). The only thing is we argue often, but its always about stupid **** etc. hey, we are young man... and she's pretty bangin'... speaking of banging stoned... just be sure you use a condom, even is she is on the pill...
this coming from someone who still hasn't learned there lesson
hey wut there giving away free subway coupons at planned parent hood
#17
08-17-2006, 07:09 PM
Originally Posted by zigzagg321
stang00 turning yet another thread into smack talk.
prob one of my more not retarded post
#20
08-17-2006, 07:22 PM
I was with a girl several years ago that got kicked out and had nowhere to go. I was living with my parents at the time and said she could stay there. Well it was supposed to be temp. but she felt like she would stay there for as long as she could and mooch off food and not pay for a damn thing. It's harder to get them out than to get them in man.
45 min to an hour is not that far to try and make love work. DO NOT move her in with you, especially since you still live at home. It will eventually cause family problems..trust me.
Let her move and see how things go. If it works 45 min away then consider moving out and the both of you get a place. Moving in with your parents is not a true test of real love and if it will work. Let her stay there on weekends or something so you can see how it is having her under your roof and sharing your things. I am not assuming but there is a good chance since you are young (don't take offense) that you will get tired of her real fast especially when you want your space. Remember when you want to go out without her, you aren't leaving her at her house..you are leaving her at your parents house. Use your best judgement on this one buddy and I hope you do the right thing. I hope everything works out man. Keep us posted.
45 min to an hour is not that far to try and make love work. DO NOT move her in with you, especially since you still live at home. It will eventually cause family problems..trust me.
Let her move and see how things go. If it works 45 min away then consider moving out and the both of you get a place. Moving in with your parents is not a true test of real love and if it will work. Let her stay there on weekends or something so you can see how it is having her under your roof and sharing your things. I am not assuming but there is a good chance since you are young (don't take offense) that you will get tired of her real fast especially when you want your space. Remember when you want to go out without her, you aren't leaving her at her house..you are leaving her at your parents house. Use your best judgement on this one buddy and I hope you do the right thing. I hope everything works out man. Keep us posted.
#21
08-17-2006, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by stang00
hey i gave him no smack i gave him advise on how to not make the mistake i did and ive been talking to this kid from colorada also and he kill his front lip all the time on those roads
prob one of my more not retarded post
prob one of my more not retarded post
SEE! jesus you people dont beleive me how ****ty colorado roads are...
anyways..what should i do about this chick?
#22
08-17-2006, 07:26 PM
Originally Posted by Badfish
sorry madmatt, but it is my thread
SEE! jesus you people dont beleive me how ****ty colorado roads are...
anyways..what should i do about this chick?
SEE! jesus you people dont beleive me how ****ty colorado roads are...
anyways..what should i do about this chick?
#23
08-17-2006, 07:32 PM
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both, lol. im not gonna lie she ****s soo good..
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her.. its like when i left my stang for hawaii. i was chill with it, but by the 7th day, i NEEDED to drive my car, lol
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her.. its like when i left my stang for hawaii. i was chill with it, but by the 7th day, i NEEDED to drive my car, lol
#24
08-17-2006, 07:37 PM
Originally Posted by Badfish
both, lol. im not gonna lie she ****s soo good..
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her.. its like when i left my stang for hawaii. i was chill with it, but by the 7th day, i NEEDED to drive my car, lol
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her.. its like when i left my stang for hawaii. i was chill with it, but by the 7th day, i NEEDED to drive my car, lol
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08-17-2006, 07:43 PM
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i dont strongly beleive in true love anyway, i think its kinda conjured up and associated with the feelings you have for certain girls when you like them alot more than others + sexual desire.
but i like her more than any girl i ever have. she's so chill about everything, i love it. she doesnt even bitch when she's on her period
but i like her more than any girl i ever have. she's so chill about everything, i love it. she doesnt even bitch when she's on her period
#26
08-17-2006, 07:45 PM
Originally Posted by Badfish
i dont strongly beleive in true love anyway, i think its kinda conjured up and associated with the feelings you have for certain girls when you like them alot more than others + sexual desire.
but i like her more than any girl i ever have. she's so chill about everything, i love it. she doesnt even bitch when she's on her period
but i like her more than any girl i ever have. she's so chill about everything, i love it. she doesnt even bitch when she's on her period
#27
08-17-2006, 07:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Badfish
both, lol. im not gonna lie she ****s soo good..
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her..
but i do love her..i think...i dont know...when we broke up i was kinda apethtic about it...but as time goes by, and the more i talk to her the more i miss her..
You said you were apathetic about when you two split up. There is a reason for that, you are not into HER as much as the comfort of being with her.
I have a lot of friends who have done that on-off-on-off-on-off thing.
It never works out. I have yet to see it work.
Here is why. You are with the person, they start to become a part of you and you a part of them. So yer dating her and she leaves, and you dont really care because she is there at the time.
As time goes on, you start to notice that she isnt around, and you start to miss that connection, and you start to think of the good times rather than the whole picture.
Next thing you know yer thinking you made a mistake, you want to get back together, and you get back together. Everything is great for a few weeks/months.
NJext thing you know, that is over, yer back to where you were before you broke up, feeling the same way, then you remember why you broke up in the first place and yer done with the relationship, and you split back up.
when you are with somebody for an extended period you sort of mold to that person. to where the two of you compliment eachother. When it is over that piece is missing, so you go out and hook up with some chicks yer not really into, start looking around, and trying to fill that hole. You could either:
A) fill that hole with different women, never be really happy with them, get back with yer ex, break up, rinse and repeat.
B) You can realize what is going on, and just let it be over, over time the mold you formed while being with her will lax and you will be more capable of a good relationship with somebody new.
yer a very analytical person, you dont believe in the voodoo hoodoo or spirituality, you are grounded and use logic to guide your path, so why stray from that now and start believing in "love" as some spiritual connection?
Hell, i like the idea of love, but i recognize it for what it is, chemical imbalances, imprinting, and comfort. The process of 2 people becoming one. its a great thing, but do not make the mistake of confusing love with infatuation, if you were apathetic about the breakup then you were not in love. yer trying to fill a hole, dont fill it with the same **** you just tossed out. lol.....
dont let her hold this power over you, you will be better off moving elsewhere. ESPECIALLY since you are both young and 50 miles away.
Go find some other girls. there are tons of them. you are too young to get caught up on this one, find one that is more local, who wont give you the apathy you felt towards the end of that relationship, and is more convenient.
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08-17-2006, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Badfish
i dont strongly beleive in true love anyway, i think its kinda conjured up and associated with the feelings you have for certain girls when you like them alot more than others + sexual desire.