Girl(s) Situation
#2
07-31-2006 | 10:20 AM
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From: Downingtown/West Chester, PA
so what are you asking...which one seems to be suited for you...id say number 1..it seems like u have/had a great relationship...and if you both think of each other after being apart for sometime..then there is a huge connection
#3
07-31-2006 | 10:29 AM
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From: Fredericksburg VA
I 2nd number one. Sounds like you should give it a shot and see if she really is the one for you. and if shes not well you have two more options! .... Oh yeah! think you could be made in a sammitch with her and one of her girlfriends
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#6
07-31-2006 | 10:55 AM
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Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 1,499
From: Winder, GA
Hmmmm. Sounds like #1 is more of the long term thing, since you both think about eachother after so long..
Just a hint: This is the 1 thread that probably would have been better without pics. (atleast for the moment.) Think about it, you put up a blonde with a nice rack, and then go on to say she is bi. I don't think there is a guy here that would not choose her.
But at the same time, she does seem like the most relationship type of the 3.
Here is my official break down:
#1: REalistically seems like a more long term thing, since like I said above, you are both still thinking about eachother after not actually seeing eachother for this long.
#2: This would be a tough long term relationship. Simply because she travels like you said, to other countries, thus you may not get to see her that much. Plus, you said you know her the less of the 3 in the running.
#3: This one seems like the "needy" type. Sounds like she wants you to ask her out, but you don't want that kind of relationship with her. She is scared to ask you out (this is the 21st century, not 1960, girls can ask guys ouy). So, this could cause even more problems in the long run. If she won't tell you what she wants now (besides dropping subtle hints) she may not tell you her true feelings down the road, and keep them bottled up! (not a good thing).
That's my $.02 just from the descriptions you gave.
Just a hint: This is the 1 thread that probably would have been better without pics. (atleast for the moment.) Think about it, you put up a blonde with a nice rack, and then go on to say she is bi. I don't think there is a guy here that would not choose her.
But at the same time, she does seem like the most relationship type of the 3.
Here is my official break down:
#1: REalistically seems like a more long term thing, since like I said above, you are both still thinking about eachother after not actually seeing eachother for this long.
#2: This would be a tough long term relationship. Simply because she travels like you said, to other countries, thus you may not get to see her that much. Plus, you said you know her the less of the 3 in the running.
#3: This one seems like the "needy" type. Sounds like she wants you to ask her out, but you don't want that kind of relationship with her. She is scared to ask you out (this is the 21st century, not 1960, girls can ask guys ouy). So, this could cause even more problems in the long run. If she won't tell you what she wants now (besides dropping subtle hints) she may not tell you her true feelings down the road, and keep them bottled up! (not a good thing).
That's my $.02 just from the descriptions you gave.
#7
07-31-2006 | 11:04 AM
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Joined: Sep 2004
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From: Lexington, SC
Im going with number 1. The other two, you dont like. Number 3 is a pity thing for sure if you pursue that, I can tell. GO FOR #1. If you and her still feel the connection after 2 years and being in different states, I say GO FOR IT.
#11
07-31-2006 | 11:26 AM
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I'd be superficial and say #1 because she's hot and has loads of money. But if she says that she'll "stop being interested in girls" and leave her husband and come down just for you, I can tell you there'd be issues down the road with marriage, finances, and emotions. Mainly bc after a divorce, depending on circumstances, everything can be split halfway. And if she just leaves him bc she doesnt like him anymore or bc she wants to be with you, the judge won't go for that and will rule in favor of the her husband and will screw her over in everything they have. Sure the parents can support her and get her a new house or whatever, but it just seems to complicated and unnecessary.
And if she's really giving up a part of her sexuality(liking girls) just to make you happy, I can guarantee you it'll come back in later in the marriage and screw things up. Just like the stories I've seen about guys who are gay and hide it so they marry a woman...always about 10 or 15 years down the road they cant stand being straight anymore and leave their wife for a man. It's a crazt world.
My last $0.02 is that just bc these are the 3 prospects as of this moment, doesn't mean you won't meet someone down the road that blows the 3 away. You're definitely not obligated to choose either of these 3. Just wait, in a couple months you'll have a new set of girls to choose from.
And if she's really giving up a part of her sexuality(liking girls) just to make you happy, I can guarantee you it'll come back in later in the marriage and screw things up. Just like the stories I've seen about guys who are gay and hide it so they marry a woman...always about 10 or 15 years down the road they cant stand being straight anymore and leave their wife for a man. It's a crazt world.
My last $0.02 is that just bc these are the 3 prospects as of this moment, doesn't mean you won't meet someone down the road that blows the 3 away. You're definitely not obligated to choose either of these 3. Just wait, in a couple months you'll have a new set of girls to choose from.
#12
07-31-2006 | 11:33 AM
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Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 2,208
From: Wheaton, IL
#2, she seems like shes a nice girl. #1 is hot but shes married, sounds like she doesn't know what she wants, if she leaves her husband and gets with you then what makeds you think she wont leave you. Not to mention she's BI, she said she can stop for you, if she really has a "thing" for women then how can she just stop? she just wants to be with you because her marrage isnt going good and she remembers all the great time you guys had, she thinks it going to be all good, but it will probably turn out not to be as good as she thinks
but do what you want, i just dont think you wat to get yourself into #1, it could be a mess
wow i just read your last post, shes a piece of **** for coming down to visit you and cheat on her husband, trust me you DO NOT want to get into that crap, it will come back to bite you in the *** HARD
but do what you want, i just dont think you wat to get yourself into #1, it could be a mess
wow i just read your last post, shes a piece of **** for coming down to visit you and cheat on her husband, trust me you DO NOT want to get into that crap, it will come back to bite you in the *** HARD
#13
07-31-2006 | 11:34 AM
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From: Winder, GA
****disclaimer: For some reason I will say this (it will sound bad coming from a guy), but in reality it's truth.......***
If you really want a long term relationship with this girl don't do a Slither sandwich. (see I said that would sound bad, especially coming from a guy). BUt, in reality, it could cause problems down the road..her saying "you slept with my firend...blah....blah....blah" even though she was all for it. But, if you two decide to be completly monogomous there won't be much trust considering you both shared someone at the same time.
Now on the other hand, a 3 some is every guy's dream. I would have to say I wouldn't turn down the oppertunity if it presented itself (whew, that sounded more testosterone driven).
If you really want a long term relationship with this girl don't do a Slither sandwich. (see I said that would sound bad, especially coming from a guy). BUt, in reality, it could cause problems down the road..her saying "you slept with my firend...blah....blah....blah" even though she was all for it. But, if you two decide to be completly monogomous there won't be much trust considering you both shared someone at the same time.
Now on the other hand, a 3 some is every guy's dream. I would have to say I wouldn't turn down the oppertunity if it presented itself (whew, that sounded more testosterone driven).
#23
07-31-2006 | 03:01 PM
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I'd be superficial and say #1 because she's hot and has loads of money. But if she says that she'll "stop being interested in girls" and leave her husband and come down just for you, I can tell you there'd be issues down the road with marriage, finances, and emotions. Mainly bc after a divorce, depending on circumstances, everything can be split halfway. And if she just leaves him bc she doesnt like him anymore or bc she wants to be with you, the judge won't go for that and will rule in favor of the her husband and will screw her over in everything they have. Sure the parents can support her and get her a new house or whatever, but it just seems to complicated and unnecessary.
And if she's really giving up a part of her sexuality(liking girls) just to make you happy, I can guarantee you it'll come back in later in the marriage and screw things up. Just like the stories I've seen about guys who are gay and hide it so they marry a woman...always about 10 or 15 years down the road they cant stand being straight anymore and leave their wife for a man. It's a crazt world.
My last $0.02 is that just bc these are the 3 prospects as of this moment, doesn't mean you won't meet someone down the road that blows the 3 away. You're definitely not obligated to choose either of these 3. Just wait, in a couple months you'll have a new set of girls to choose from.
And if she's really giving up a part of her sexuality(liking girls) just to make you happy, I can guarantee you it'll come back in later in the marriage and screw things up. Just like the stories I've seen about guys who are gay and hide it so they marry a woman...always about 10 or 15 years down the road they cant stand being straight anymore and leave their wife for a man. It's a crazt world.
My last $0.02 is that just bc these are the 3 prospects as of this moment, doesn't mean you won't meet someone down the road that blows the 3 away. You're definitely not obligated to choose either of these 3. Just wait, in a couple months you'll have a new set of girls to choose from.
#26
07-31-2006 | 03:54 PM
FYL.
Joined: May 2006
Posts: 7,493
From: Pensacola, Florida
I went to BB&B today, DAMN how can you stand to work there man? The smell of popery is enough to drive someone crazy...and there are so many ricers in the bestbuy/BB&B parking lot, I was surrounded by a Civic and Integra, lol
#29
07-31-2006 | 04:49 PM
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Being Bi is in style now so hopefully she is not really into it and it was just a phase. If not you have the whole planet to worry about instead of just males. Money only goes so far, love only goes so far, you need a balance of both so dont look into women who have only money or women you love and have no aspirations. Money problems will take the love out of the relationship quick as well as someone who has alot of money and does as she pleases since she has her money to fall back on. Your future wife may not be any of the ones you listed but you will know when you meet her. If you have to ask people which one she may be then shes not the one.
