things just keep getting worse.

Spoke to a lawyer...

She said i basically have no defence. Colorado is a no fault state meaning the courts dont give a **** how good of a father/husband i have been, or how many affairs she had or how many times she lied and has abandonded her family.

worst case scenario i will have to pay all medical, all dental, all childcare, $350/mo child support untill he turns 18, and 1000/mo spousal support for up to 2 years.

it will completly destroy my credit, put me tens of thousands in debt, i dont even know if i would be able to afford to buy him a birthday present. House would be foreclosed, would have to give my dogs away

after the alimony is done, i would have more of my money left, but the debts i would incur woudl be massive.

They say colorado does not favor the wife, this is true, they only give a **** about the income ratios. I make 8 times what she makes. Therefore im the one who has to pay up. It makes no difference if it destroys the rest of my life.

my only chance at this point is to work out a deal with her that she will accept and gives me an opportunity to survive long enough to not completely destroy everything i have worked so hard for.

the ONLY goo thing, is i have a right to see my boy 50% of the time.

i guess thats all that matters.. the kids.... it was always easy to say that untill im in this situation... it would be nice if i could matter too... i dont think that is asking too much.

 

I think you need to speak with a male lawyer, maybe.
The chics opinion on your situation might be a little biased, unlikely, but maybe.

 

Sorry man. I feel for you. That is BS. They should take into account what she has done.

 

That's ******* bullshit. Speak to a few more lawyers and see if you get a different story.

On the bright side, if she ever plans a trip to Florida, let me know. I'll get a couple friends together to give her a good southern girl ***-whoopin'.

 

Remind me to never live in Colorado.

 

man **** colorado...that's bullshit.

 

i wonder if i can get into the guiness book of world records for the worst string of bad luck in history.

 

nah, with your luck, you'd be a few terrible events short of the record.

 

^LMAO

 

There was some guy killed in Katrina that survived the World Trade Center collapse...

I'd say talk to a guy lawyer. The uppherhand there is he'll stick up for you because he won't be some feminist hack...

 

your a fine example of why im never getting married, and why i still dont trust women. I feel sooo friggin sorry for you, you dont even know. If i wasnt a college bum id be sending help your way for sure. But i always look at it this way, if each day keeps becoming the worst day of your life, maybe things are gonna take a huge turn for the better soon. Just hang in there.

 

any money sent would probably go to the wife anyways.

i have a plan im working on to kind of buy her out.

ill be earint ramen noodles for a year, but ill still be able to work, have my house, and illbe able to recover down the road. i think it is a pretty generous offer, i hope she goes for it.

 

god damn zig...

thats pretty goddamn funny

lol

 

post purpose served... If you really laughed at that... good. For the fraction of time you were laughing at that, you werent stressin over the BS that has been happening to you.

 

wow i opened up this thread really hoping it wasn't more bullshit you had to go through. I feel bad for you man, hope some luck strolls your way.

 

Damn Jack, it just doesn't end for you does it? Seriously though man, I hope everything works out for you and you land back on your feet in the near future.

 

If you wern't an upstanding and moraly just person you could do what my girlfriend's Dad did, quit working to avoid paying child support and use any money gained to support a drug habbit of your choice and completely forget about your kids for months at a time, call them a few days after thier birthday just to let them know your still alive.

 

or do what mine did... have 2 more kids with her, kidnap the two oldest and leave the youngest there to live with the dumb/doper/cheatin-*****, dont call or write or send money or even let them know you're alive till the youngest is 16 then come back into their lives all sudden like and be butt hurt that they're pissed at you. sure the youngest will have abandonment issues and anger problems the rest of their life but hey, it's cheaper.

My dad never had to pay a cent, had great credit, two businesses and a home bought and paid for. he was in roughly the same boat as you, except he got divorced in california where the mother does get everything by default.

 

It really sucks that the system works like it does! Laws are made for the crimials and common sence is overlooked. Just dont do nothing stupid until you can get it all worked out. Sorry Bud

 

HAL-LE-******-LU-YAH

just spoke to the wife. she is upset, stressed, and freaking out under stress overload.

she said she wants to work things out with me. no, not get back together.

she wants to work with me through this divorce to make sure we are both covered, she doesent want me to lose the house, she wants to make sure im gonna be ok but she wants to make sure she will be covered as well.

looks like we are going to move her out. i told her to get a budget put together of what she will need, get some numbers figured out, and we will see if we can get her an apartment.

this is awesome! ive been so worried that she was just going to nail my ***** to the wall and take everything. She has nothing to gain by lying on this.

anyways, in the fucked up existance that has become my life, this is actually good news. If we can get the goddamn lawers out of this and work something out that means i may be able to salvage a normal life through all of this.

oh yah, and i got to see this guy perform live at Comedy Works on my birthday. and it was ******* hilarious.



i think my life has followed the trend of the american economy and has somewhat bottomed out. with any luck things will start improving.

 

YOU CAN DO EEET!

 

I'm real glad to hear this. Just keep the postive attitude you have now and work with her. Then, when you safely get through the divorce, without ripping your livelihood apart, just keep going further away. Soon you will be in clear skies again. Kinda like going through a bad storm. There's a clearing just up ahead..

 

Remind me to get a prenup.

 

I hope everything works out for ya Jack. I think the easy party is working things out so eveyrone is covered. The hard part is not pissing her off so bad that she drags you into court.

 

Well it sounds like your only option then is to board the dude train. hahahahaha

 

WTF. dude train? . All you young men need to wait until your at least 30 yrs old to get married. Don't get married after 6 months of dating any woman. Give a year or 2. You gotta know your partner very well, well enough to be able to read their thoughts and can feel any tension, or emotion, they have before it actually happens. Marriage is a good thing because it can add stability to your life. You will need this before you have children.. That way you can be dedicated to the family as a whole instead of choosing between kids, an/or spouse. When raising a child you and your spouse should work as a team. It gets complicated as your children get older, and try to establish their own identity. Anyway, Find the one for you, make sure the feeling is mutual. No doubts about it. Then get safely married.

I've been married 18 years. and I couldn't imagine being without my wife.. She means that much to me.. And she feels the same about me.

BTW. I was 32 when I got married. Wife was 28.

 

That sounds like something from a very bad porno movie!!

 

haha, since krenogin never wants to get married or can't trust women, I figured his only other option was to date men. I'm married myself.