life upside down

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 05:41 PM

i've been really stressed lately and i had this big blowup with my girl...maybe my fault...maybe not...anyway...i was really pissed and moping when i get a call from my ex...she just got engaged and she was nice enough to hear my misery and come by....yall know how these things go...sitting around talking...put my head on her shoulder...put my head a lil lower...and lower and lower...things happen...wake up staring at the ceiling in the morning...her tellin me she never forgot me...NOW WHAT? this is fubar...i thought things were stressed before...now i'm in a position where somebody is gonna get hurt bad...me? my girl? my ex? her fiance? and on top of all that i gotta cut my hair for work AND still track down a coupla fugitives....i just wanna sail away on a fishing boat for a few months

WaterDR · 03-01-2008, 07:08 PM

I hope your Ex has the good sense to call off the wedding. I would hate to be the "other" guy. Seems to me that he is the guy that is getting the shaft. I would hate to be him.

rebelyell · 03-01-2008, 07:19 PM

Sounds to me like you and your "ex", are still very much involved with each other. Maybe you should try to pick up the pieces from that relationship??. Only you can tell where you want to go from here. If you 2 still feel like that with each other it may be good for both of you. The fiance will be pissed, for sure but you have to ask yourself if you're in love with her or did you just use her.. HMM..

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 07:33 PM

i'm kind of at a loss...i really do love my girl but now i dont really see how i can keep her...somethin like this isnt gonna stay a secret for long...especially if the other guy finds out and starts looking for me...my ex actually drove his benz to my house...its real confusin...cause unlike a regular hit and run, i actually care about both of these girls...and eventually i'm gonna really hurt one of em

V6_Mustang_Power · 03-01-2008, 08:21 PM

maybe they will understand and hmmm 3 some?

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 08:26 PM

doubtful...

V6_Mustang_Power · 03-01-2008, 08:34 PM

i was just messing man. I wouldnt take your ex back...think about it, if she's about to get amrried and slept with you, would you trust her? do you think she wont do the same to you? im sorry it happend but i wouldnt take her back and i know the guilt you will feel if you never tell your current girl.

WaterDR · 03-01-2008, 08:38 PM

I hate to say it, but the right thing to do is to speak with your EX and agree to never see her again. Neither of you should tell anyone. You have to live with your guilt and she has to live with hers. Those are your crosses to bear. For some reason, people feel they need to get this shit off their chests to make themselves feel good, but all you do is hurt more people.

If my wife cheated on me, would I really want to know? No, I would not, as long as it has stopped. Why ruin a marriage?

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 08:45 PM

yeah...i know...thats the really screwed up part...i think i end up the loser here...man i've been messed up all day over this...and you know what i learned? i learned how hard it is to be in a work environment where everyone is supposed to be all gung ho and carefree...i did bring this up to the fellas on my team but you know how that is...i laughed about it and got the slaps on the back...i even told a threesome joke or two...ya always gotta pretend everythings cool around ya boys...now i'm in my office staring at my fishtank in the dark thinkin damn i fucked up and rantin on mb

WaterDR · 03-01-2008, 09:06 PM

Seems like you have a lot of "machizmo" in your life. Sort of fits with a lot of other things you and I have bantered about.

You gotta ask yourself this question: "Do these people really bring out the best in you"? And, "what types of lives do they lead and is it the type that you want?". I always find it funny when people give relationship advice who have messed-up ones at home.

My brother in law is separated from his wife now for the second time. All he does is hang out in the bar bitching about her to a bunch of other dopes who are doing the same thing. Then she gets pissed because he is in the bar every day. It does not do any good for his marriage and the two kids that they have. Drive me nuts that he just does not see it.

Seriously, I know it happens, but no one should be giving you a "high 5" in this situation. Especially not when you are hurting too.

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 09:20 PM

funny you should say that..ya know, theres not one...NOT EVEN ONE happily married guy in the entire office where i work...how can any of us be? weird hours...constantly on the move...sometimes work can keep us away from home for a week or so...sometimes you cant even call...i would be nutso without this lil laptop...and dont even get me started on trying to close my eyes without seein another dead guy

StreetRacer · 03-01-2008, 10:34 PM

whew...okay...i feel better now...that bout of conscience was thankfully a passing thing...i just made up my mind to roll with the first one who calls me in the morning

i should say though in defense of my ex....shes not a bad girl...i did sort of screw her over and leave her pregnant when she was very young and i was her first...i dont really deserve for her still to be in love with me...part of my guilt was that i'm sure this guy shes with is probably a kinder man than i am...cause if i was a good guy, i would walk away and let her live some kinda life with him...............................................

officer4c13 · 03-01-2008, 11:12 PM

i dont know what to say here mabey you should call up your ex and say lets talk about having a get together. and find out what she wants that might it easier for you. wish you the best man. and just remember every thing will be ok in the end.

Steeda97 · 03-02-2008, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by WaterDR

I hate to say it, but the right thing to do is to speak with your EX and agree to never see her again. Neither of you should tell anyone. You have to live with your guilt and she has to live with hers. Those are your crosses to bear. For some reason, people feel they need to get this shit off their chests to make themselves feel good, but all you do is hurt more people.

If my wife cheated on me, would I really want to know? No, I would not, as long as it has stopped. Why ruin a marriage?

+1,000,001

For real. Listen to WaterDR.

Dream · 03-02-2008, 12:00 PM

i ended up messin up a good relationship once. i got freeky with an ex....the ex was the current girls sister at the time. u wanna talk about a shitty situation, i knew how u felt.

after "gettin er dun" goin with ur ex is kinda like jerkin off. stick with the girl u got now. keep ur mouth shut. best u can do is jus like water said, talk to her and say listen just fuck off. you got a fiance i got a girl, good things are goin on right now for both of us and neither of us wanna mess up our lives ne more.

arnt u in the middle of a promo? dun let work stress you out so much u mess things up with what could b potentially some1 tha could b around u longer then ur ex.

in the end ask urself this. who laughs at my shitty jokes even when i dont? who will be there in the end? and who will b waitin at home for me when i get back from a hunt and havnt talked to them in a week.

best the luck bro. im sure ull figure it out in the end

Steeda97 · 03-02-2008, 12:48 PM

Where the hell was your girlfriend when you were with your ex? Shit, my girl would know if i didn't come home. hahaha.

V6_Mustang_Power · 03-02-2008, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Steeda97

Where the hell was your girlfriend when you were with your ex? Shit, my girl would know if i didn't come home. hahaha.

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Originally Posted by StreetRacer

engaged and she was nice enough to hear my misery and come by....yall know how these things go...sitting around talking...put my head on her shoulder...put my head a lil lower...and lower and lower...things happen...

he was home. now where was his girl at?

StreetRacer · 03-02-2008, 01:00 PM

i dont live with my girl...she lives with her family...and we had this big blowup so she wasnt gonna be poppin by anyway...thats sort of why it happened...stress from her...stress from work...stress from the clientel...heh

StreetRacer · 03-02-2008, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Dream

after "gettin er dun" goin with ur ex is kinda like jerkin off.

dude i wasnt gonna ask but its been buggin me for a while now...what does that line mean? lol

Mossberg · 03-02-2008, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by StreetRacer

i dont live with my girl...she lives with her family...and we had this big blowup so she wasnt gonna be poppin by anyway...thats sort of why it happened...stress from her...stress from work...stress from the clientel...heh

It would've been interesting if your current girl decided to stop by to make up and found the ex over your place.

StreetRacer · 03-02-2008, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Mossberg

It would've been interesting if your current girl decided to stop by to make up and found the ex over your place.

that brings to mind another issue...i'm thinkin that theres really no way this is gonna turn out sunshine and roses so maybe i ought to find a hideout for my mustang for awhile...or at least a locking gas cap...cause i can recover from cosmetic damage but i'll flip if someone goes to the tank...then it'll get really ugly

V6_Mustang_Power · 03-02-2008, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by StreetRacer

that brings to mind another issue...i'm thinkin that theres really no way this is gonna turn out sunshine and roses so maybe i ought to find a hideout for my mustang for awhile...or at least a locking gas cap...cause i can recover from cosmetic damage but i'll flip if someone goes to the tank...then it'll get really ugly

worst that could happen is if someone pours 3-4lbs of sugar in your tank

StreetRacer · 03-02-2008, 03:27 PM

really weird thing is...i do love my girl..but now my ex is sorta comin back into my thoughts...the ex is younger than my girl and has this kinda innocent thing goin on thats kinda hard to ignore

Steeda97 · 03-02-2008, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by StreetRacer

really weird thing is...i do love my girl..but now my ex is sorta comin back into my thoughts...the ex is younger than my girl and has this kinda innocent thing goin on thats kinda hard to ignore

Not trying to offend but that innocence is gone after she was engaged and had sex with her ex. I don't even know her and i don't have any respect for her. Sorry.

StreetRacer · 03-02-2008, 04:10 PM

hmm true...but then maybe i never should have let him have her to begin with...hmm...naw...i have my girl...but then

Steeda97 · 03-02-2008, 04:14 PM

What you have to do is decide. You have to realize what you want to do. Do you care about hurting others if you get what you really want? You only live once. You lived without your ex for awhile i assume, so you obviously can go without her. Your current girlfriend, would you want to hurt her? You already messed up, so you can either try to get through it, or just lie through your teeth to try not to hurt anyone. But let me tell you, if you decide to try to get away with it, if she ever finds out, its going to be catastrophic.

03-01-2008, 05:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	life upside down i've been really stressed lately and i had this big blowup with my girl...maybe my fault...maybe not...anyway...i was really pissed and moping when i get a call from my ex...she just got engaged and she was nice enough to hear my misery and come by....yall know how these things go...sitting around talking...put my head on her shoulder...put my head a lil lower...and lower and lower...things happen...wake up staring at the ceiling in the morning...her tellin me she never forgot me...NOW WHAT? this is fubar...i thought things were stressed before...now i'm in a position where somebody is gonna get hurt bad...me? my girl? my ex? her fiance? and on top of all that i gotta cut my hair for work AND still track down a coupla fugitives....i just wanna sail away on a fishing boat for a few months

03-01-2008, 07:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
WaterDR Administrator Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 6,374	I hope your Ex has the good sense to call off the wedding. I would hate to be the "other" guy. Seems to me that he is the guy that is getting the shaft. I would hate to be him. __________________ Black 2000 GT Vert: Novi-2000 with Intercooler (375rwhp @ 9 psi); Tune by Kauffmans; Roush 380R Body kit; Steeda Subframes; Steeda Strut Tower Support; Deep Dish Bullets; FRPP 4:10's; SCT 4 Position Chip with four custom tunes; Steeda CAI; C&L Pleum; BBK 75 TB; SLP Loudmouth; SLP Catted X-Pipe; Bullitt Suspension; UPR Conrol Arms; Focus Fuel Pump My Car My Email

03-01-2008, 07:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
rebelyell unofficial philosopher Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Fayetteville, NC Posts: 1,848	Sounds to me like you and your "ex", are still very much involved with each other. Maybe you should try to pick up the pieces from that relationship??. Only you can tell where you want to go from here. If you 2 still feel like that with each other it may be good for both of you. The fiance will be pissed, for sure but you have to ask yourself if you're in love with her or did you just use her.. HMM.. __________________ 2004 Torch Red GT Mach 1 Chin Spoiler "4.6 L V8" Side Stripes Mach 1 Hood stripe Black shorty antenna Flowmaster catbacks

03-01-2008, 08:38 PM	#8 (permalink)
WaterDR Administrator Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 6,374	I hate to say it, but the right thing to do is to speak with your EX and agree to never see her again. Neither of you should tell anyone. You have to live with your guilt and she has to live with hers. Those are your crosses to bear. For some reason, people feel they need to get this shit off their chests to make themselves feel good, but all you do is hurt more people. If my wife cheated on me, would I really want to know? No, I would not, as long as it has stopped. Why ruin a marriage? __________________ Black 2000 GT Vert: Novi-2000 with Intercooler (375rwhp @ 9 psi); Tune by Kauffmans; Roush 380R Body kit; Steeda Subframes; Steeda Strut Tower Support; Deep Dish Bullets; FRPP 4:10's; SCT 4 Position Chip with four custom tunes; Steeda CAI; C&L Pleum; BBK 75 TB; SLP Loudmouth; SLP Catted X-Pipe; Bullitt Suspension; UPR Conrol Arms; Focus Fuel Pump My Car My Email

03-01-2008, 09:06 PM	#10 (permalink)
WaterDR Administrator Join Date: Sep 2004 Posts: 6,374	Seems like you have a lot of "machizmo" in your life. Sort of fits with a lot of other things you and I have bantered about. You gotta ask yourself this question: "Do these people really bring out the best in you"? And, "what types of lives do they lead and is it the type that you want?". I always find it funny when people give relationship advice who have messed-up ones at home. My brother in law is separated from his wife now for the second time. All he does is hang out in the bar bitching about her to a bunch of other dopes who are doing the same thing. Then she gets pissed because he is in the bar every day. It does not do any good for his marriage and the two kids that they have. Drive me nuts that he just does not see it. Seriously, I know it happens, but no one should be giving you a "high 5" in this situation. Especially not when you are hurting too. __________________ Black 2000 GT Vert: Novi-2000 with Intercooler (375rwhp @ 9 psi); Tune by Kauffmans; Roush 380R Body kit; Steeda Subframes; Steeda Strut Tower Support; Deep Dish Bullets; FRPP 4:10's; SCT 4 Position Chip with four custom tunes; Steeda CAI; C&L Pleum; BBK 75 TB; SLP Loudmouth; SLP Catted X-Pipe; Bullitt Suspension; UPR Conrol Arms; Focus Fuel Pump My Car My Email

03-01-2008, 07:33 PM	#4 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	i'm kind of at a loss...i really do love my girl but now i dont really see how i can keep her...somethin like this isnt gonna stay a secret for long...especially if the other guy finds out and starts looking for me...my ex actually drove his benz to my house...its real confusin...cause unlike a regular hit and run, i actually care about both of these girls...and eventually i'm gonna really hurt one of em

03-01-2008, 08:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
V6_Mustang_Power Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,808	maybe they will understand and hmmm 3 some?

03-01-2008, 08:26 PM	#6 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	doubtful...

03-01-2008, 08:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
V6_Mustang_Power Banned Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 1,808	i was just messing man. I wouldnt take your ex back...think about it, if she's about to get amrried and slept with you, would you trust her? do you think she wont do the same to you? im sorry it happend but i wouldnt take her back and i know the guilt you will feel if you never tell your current girl.

03-01-2008, 09:20 PM	#11 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	funny you should say that..ya know, theres not one...NOT EVEN ONE happily married guy in the entire office where i work...how can any of us be? weird hours...constantly on the move...sometimes work can keep us away from home for a week or so...sometimes you cant even call...i would be nutso without this lil laptop...and dont even get me started on trying to close my eyes without seein another dead guy

03-01-2008, 10:34 PM	#12 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	whew...okay...i feel better now...that bout of conscience was thankfully a passing thing...i just made up my mind to roll with the first one who calls me in the morning i should say though in defense of my ex....shes not a bad girl...i did sort of screw her over and leave her pregnant when she was very young and i was her first...i dont really deserve for her still to be in love with me...part of my guilt was that i'm sure this guy shes with is probably a kinder man than i am...cause if i was a good guy, i would walk away and let her live some kinda life with him...............................................

03-01-2008, 11:12 PM	#13 (permalink)
officer4c13 corrections Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: wa Posts: 198	i dont know what to say here mabey you should call up your ex and say lets talk about having a get together. and find out what she wants that might it easier for you. wish you the best man. and just remember every thing will be ok in the end. __________________ 1985 GT 5.0 5 speed i cant spell worth shit

03-02-2008, 12:00 PM	#15 (permalink)
Dream Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 778	i ended up messin up a good relationship once. i got freeky with an ex....the ex was the current girls sister at the time. u wanna talk about a shitty situation, i knew how u felt. after "gettin er dun" goin with ur ex is kinda like jerkin off. stick with the girl u got now. keep ur mouth shut. best u can do is jus like water said, talk to her and say listen just fuck off. you got a fiance i got a girl, good things are goin on right now for both of us and neither of us wanna mess up our lives ne more. arnt u in the middle of a promo? dun let work stress you out so much u mess things up with what could b potentially some1 tha could b around u longer then ur ex. in the end ask urself this. who laughs at my shitty jokes even when i dont? who will be there in the end? and who will b waitin at home for me when i get back from a hunt and havnt talked to them in a week. best the luck bro. im sure ull figure it out in the end

03-02-2008, 12:48 PM	#16 (permalink)
Steeda97 giggity. Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 2,535	Where the hell was your girlfriend when you were with your ex? Shit, my girl would know if i didn't come home. hahaha. __________________

03-02-2008, 01:00 PM	#18 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	i dont live with my girl...she lives with her family...and we had this big blowup so she wasnt gonna be poppin by anyway...thats sort of why it happened...stress from her...stress from work...stress from the clientel...heh Last edited by StreetRacer : 03-02-2008 at 01:03 PM.

03-02-2008, 03:27 PM	#23 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	really weird thing is...i do love my girl..but now my ex is sorta comin back into my thoughts...the ex is younger than my girl and has this kinda innocent thing goin on thats kinda hard to ignore

03-02-2008, 04:10 PM	#25 (permalink)
StreetRacer Banned Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 1,639	hmm true...but then maybe i never should have let him have her to begin with...hmm...naw...i have my girl...but then