Am I a bad person???
 

Well, this girl just moved to my area from Florida and one of my friends of like 15 years starting talking to her. He had just gotten out of a serious serious relationship with this girl. And now he is just in for the sex. So I just kind of watched him and what he would. And being the person I am I hate to see guys use girls just for sex. So as soon as they are basically considered a couple he messages and says, "Man, this girl is really weird but I don't even care. She is so hot!" So him telling me this is basically verifying that he is just going to use this girl for sex. I feel so bad for doing this but of course I tell her because I don't want her to get hurt just moving here and all. And we talked earlier and she said she was looking for a serious relationship so I definitely felt obligated to tell her his plans. So she is like really sad now that he was going to use her like that and she says she really liked him. Now that she knows, she is going to break-up with him in basically the same night they are considered a couple I guess.

No, my question for you guys is, "Am I a bad person for telling her what his plans were?"

Sounds like a major cockblock on your behalf.

cock block. thats how your friend will look at it. i know thats how i would react.

maybe true but the way i was raised i like the fact of using women for that

i got respect for ya bro, i can stand guys who do that to girls either, and i see it alot saying that i am 20

were you wrong?!?!? YES!! Your not supposed to go do that to your boy man. You should have went to him first and told him that you didn't like what he was doing. And if he didn't like what you were saying, then kinda ease it onto her if you really care. But since you didn't.........you risk your friendship.

Oh and i'm with matt on this one.....major cockblock.......in fact you should change your name to "Capt'n Cockblock" :)

I'd do the same thing......it may be a cockblock to your friend but tell him to look for someone that wants the same thing as him....he shouldnt have been trying to use a girl like that....I've done it to one of my friends and thats how I met my g/f and i'm glad I did shes better with me now and i've been with her for over a year now.......for everyone who said cockblock you wonder why you are still single

Its a doggy dog world. Girls do it to the guys all the time.

I'm single cause i like to be. I have plenty fun being single. Actually more fun than when i had a girlfriend. It's not about that though.....it's about GOING TO YOUR FRIEND FIRST!! why wouldn't you? You'd rather go behind his back and tell his so called girlfriend...who you don't really know than go to him? Your friend? That's weak man.

so true so true

He would have done something even if I said something......a matter of fact I recall have saying something......back to the matter at hand guys like you or ShadowsGT's friend dont give a s*** what ppl have to say even from your friend thats not how you guys think. Fact of the matter is ShadowsGT protected that girl from getting heartbroken and used. One day you'll appreciate women not for just for a perminent booty call but someone you can chill with and have a good time. Stop thinking with your d*** and start thinking with your head.

maybe i should have went to my friend first but i still don't agree with what he is trying to do...

and i think i didn't go to him first is because i pretty much knew what his reply would have been. he would of told me to stfu and called me a psusy. that's why i skipped him...

Maybe so, but you dont go to the girl..... you go to your friend. He has no business confronting her. Thats why i say :

If he's been doing this for awhile do you really think he would have said "Oh I totally agree with you I dont think i'm going to have sex with her because I dont want to hurt her feelings, thank you for bringing me to my senses, wow I feel like a d***, I cant believe I was going to do this to a innocent girl." Ummmm yeah .......dude dont feel bad seriously you did a good thing

I know I did the right thing but he like knows what I told her now and is like pissed really bad. And he has been doing this for a while. He has about 5 new gf's since his serious relationship ended about a month ago and I know for a fact that he is each one of those little relationships for the sex. It just pisses me off that he does that.

I'm glad it p***** him off you dont do that to girls....tell him to find a girl that just wants sex and do that

Ok, you need a new buddy. You cant go around warning all of his potential suspects.

Captain Sav A Ho

it's not like i tell every girl he tries to get with

it's just that this girl just moved to our area to live with her dad since her mom died like a week ago in florida where she used to live

she is looking for a very serious relationship too like she told me earlier today

First off, i respect all women like my mother. Are you kidding me? Just because i don't have a girlfriend and choose on my own to be single doesn't mean that i don't respect women. I'm not saying that what his friend was doing was right, but if he's a grown ass man and knows what he's doing then he'll make his own decision. Not only that if the chick can't see that she's being used for sex, then she needs to take the virgin glasses off. i'm with foncarelli on this one cause if you were a true friend, you would talk to him first regardless of what you THINK he's going to say. If he calls you a *****, so be it. Oh no he called you a puss you gunna go tell your mommy now? Seeing as to how you like to tell on people........

Basicly all i'm saying is that these are grown ass people (or i'm led to believe they are). If you have a problem with the way he treats girls, then you need another homie. Cause you can't take the way he lives his life. It's his life, he's grown and hes going to do what he wants. Point blank. If he don't listen, oh well

wait.....this chick just moved there a WEEK AGO.....and she's givin it up to this guy already?!?!?!?!??! She's only known him a week? ................real serious!!!!

who ever said she gave it up to him? i honestly don't ****ing respect the way you are saying this to me. If you still think that i'm in the go tell mommy era then you have a little bit of catching up to do.

Here is an old farts view of this one: You like this girl and you are thinking about asking her out. Correct?? If so what you did is OK. Good offensive move. But if you are just trying to save this girl some heartache ( which I don't believe) because she has just moved here and this and that, then you shouldn't interfere. Let her make her own decisions. You must have a the hots for this one. (maybe not the hots but, feelings for her.) Or you could be like I used to be and tell her that stuff so you can take the interception.(sorry I'm still in football mode).:clap: BTW, is she Hot?? Keep us updated on this. And By all means ask her out before your friend does her.. :devil2:

i barely know the girl so there is no way i've got the hots for her. I can post the link to her myspace but she is only 16

I wasn't saying that make you mad, i was saying it to make a point. The fact that you went behind your friends back. From my end that's weak from all ends without going to him first. That's how i see it. What i really think doesn't matter. you ask for opinions, you got them. don't get mad because that's why they call them opinions.....

sorry for freaking, i just ****ing hate it when girls get used that

and honeslty, this isn't my best of buds either

we get into it alot and he usually ends up going home with a swolen lip



oh well, the past is the past i can't change it. **** it....

sorry bro my bad.. that's a good reason for giving her warning about your friend. BTW how old is he?? They got laws against that stuff. :surrender

he is 17, not quite illegal yet

+1...........

+1

Bro's before Hoe's if you got an issue like that go to your boy first...I mean it seems like your tryin to stab ur boy in the back just so you can date this girl...yet you don't really know her that well, trust me man girls aren't worth breakin up a friendship like you said of 15 years...

I commend you for what you did. If I EVER found out someone was doing this to my ex, if for some reason she has a change in the way she handles herself, I would go ape sh*t on that guy. There is NO place for a girl to be treated like that. There are plenty of girls out there that just want sex, so find one of them. Yea, maybe your friend will be mad, but maybe you should find a new friend that doesnt treat women like something on the bottom of his shoe.