It's nice to have friends.
 

Have any of you been fucked over by some of your friend's good intentions? One of my buds since highschool pretty much ruined any chance I had with a certain woman friend whom I started to fall for against my own will. He said some shit to her while he was drunk and made me off as a fucking dirtbag and hung me out to dry. I was forced to tell her everything from the gitgo through FB chat and completely friend-zoned myself for life, hopefully not actually losing her as a friend. I definitely did NOT want to have that conversation through the fucking internet.

Three days ago I saved his own relationship by talking to his girlfriend for two hours about how we all know they are meant for each other and how much he truly loves her.


I really feel I don't deserve all of this shit that happens to me. I have always been the guy that everyone takes their problems to and helps them out. I always get fucked from it and never get anywhere, it is really starting to wear on me.

This isn't some highschool drama bullshit. I'm 21 years old and genuinely liked this girl, enough to want to spend most of my time with her, and that went to shit within five minutes because one of my apparent best friends shot his fucking mouth off. I am the last person anyone I know would think to get upset and lose their composure, but I am gone right now. I have no way of keeping my cool right now because I'm pretty much just feeling like I got thrown under the bus, as an adult, by supposed adults whose circumstances are much better than my own. There is no God if this kind of shit happens.

some people will go to all extremes to make themselves look like something they are not in situations like this, your friend will regret it for a long time and know how badly he hurt you in this " slip of the lip, sinks ships " ordeal.

And for the girl, if she means alot to you, let her know it and if she sees you for who you are portraying yourself here as a stand up guy. She will see your true colors and make a go of it and let the cards lay where they are...

Some people are just dumbarses when beer or drugs are involved, and your so call x/buddy will really wish he didnt run his mouth!

Pee, if she is the type of girl to write you off romantically because of some things said by a drunk friend of yours, is she really worth your angst?

There are plenty of other chicks out there man. Dont get hung up on that "one" that you think you get along with. It is pretty shitty that your friend spilled some insider information about you and Charlie Bravo'd you.

It's not so much the girl I'm worried about, I don't get hung up on one person, it's the way the whole thing played out that I got pissed at, especially since it was mostly at cause of a friend I've known for 8 years.

does he know he CB'd you? I would let him know not to fuck with your chances of a female friend, especially, if said friend is in a relationship of their own.

Quit crying about it. Your goal here should be to cock block him back way worse than he did to you. Then kick him in the nads. THATS what friends do.

Call him out on his shit, let me know he broke the code and cock blocked you, WHICH YOU NEVER FUCKING DO! Have a sit-down with this guy, if he is really a good friend and has some bro-code-decency he will understand and do his best to make you look as good as possible to females you're interested in, it's what dudes do. My closest friends and I have an understanding that no matter how drunk you are, you never talk bad about any other friend in front of a female that the friend may be interested in. Lie, withhold info, and embelish, but don't make a bro look bad. If you can't make a friend look good, you keep your mouth shut and stay out of the way.

One mother fucker I know; my best friend and he went to the club, my friend ends up picking up a chick and then when it comes time to leave, my friend tells the other dude to get a ride from another friend that was at the club, my friend needed to take this chick to a hotel. The dude gets butt hurt and gets into a fight with the chick calling her a whore and shit. Classic cockblock, althought my friend still smashed her so hard it squirted out of her ears.

Plenty of girls out there though Kev, even though you feel lik you've lost this one, all hope is not lost, keep working on her if you think you'll get some payoff.

As everything mentioned above, you need to come clean with both the girl and the so-called buddy.

Let the girl know that you didn't mean for things to get started off the way that they have, but that you genuinely have a sense of feelings for her and that because of that, you're trying to see if she would even give you a chance. You're definitely starting from behind, but IMO someone that can muster up to say something to me about that situation definitely deserves the chance.

As for the buddy, tell him you don't really appreciate someone you've called a friend for so long personally throw you under the bus like that. Alcohol or other substances are no excuse to me. Because the way I see it, is that if you talk shit when you're drunk, then when you're sober you're just too big of a pussy to say anything. True feelings come out when you're drunk. Thats how I see it.

I recently went through the same thing with two guy friends of mine. I'm a classic romantic at heart, not your typical guy for sure. My two buddies on the other hand, talk shit about women and treat them like shit all the time. I can't stand it, but I can't control them 24/7. However they decided to start talking shit and being dicks to the girl I was dating, TO HER FACE at certain moments. So I told them they could either change and shut their big ass mouths, or they could fuck off and go hang out somewhere else (they're both over at my house everyday since their parents are about to kick both of them out). Needless to say, shit changed real quick, and they apologized for it to me and her as well.

Bro-code needs to be used to set shit straight sometimes. Like mentioned, if he won't respect you enough to listen to you and take it into regards, then he isn't a true friend. And I hate to say that. But you have to be selfish at times, or you'll be left with nothing in the end of your own.