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i've been really stressed lately and i had this big blowup with my girl...maybe my fault...maybe not...anyway...i was really pissed and moping when i get a call from my ex...she just got engaged and she was nice enough to hear my misery and come by....yall know how these things go...sitting around talking...put my head on her shoulder...put my head a lil lower...and lower and lower...things happen...wake up staring at the ceiling in the morning...her tellin me she never forgot me...NOW WHAT? this is fubar...i thought things were stressed before...now i'm in a position where somebody is gonna get hurt bad...me? my girl? my ex? her fiance? and on top of all that i gotta cut my hair for work AND still track down a coupla fugitives....i just wanna sail away on a fishing boat for a few months

I hope your Ex has the good sense to call off the wedding. I would hate to be the "other" guy. Seems to me that he is the guy that is getting the shaft. I would hate to be him.

Sounds to me like you and your "ex", are still very much involved with each other. Maybe you should try to pick up the pieces from that relationship??. Only you can tell where you want to go from here. If you 2 still feel like that with each other it may be good for both of you. The fiance will be pissed, for sure but you have to ask yourself if you're in love with her or did you just use her.. HMM.. :confused:

i'm kind of at a loss...i really do love my girl but now i dont really see how i can keep her...somethin like this isnt gonna stay a secret for long...especially if the other guy finds out and starts looking for me...my ex actually drove his benz to my house...its real confusin...cause unlike a regular hit and run, i actually care about both of these girls...and eventually i'm gonna really hurt one of em

maybe they will understand and hmmm 3 some? :D

doubtful...

i was just messing man. I wouldnt take your ex back...think about it, if she's about to get amrried and slept with you, would you trust her? do you think she wont do the same to you? im sorry it happend but i wouldnt take her back and i know the guilt you will feel if you never tell your current girl.

I hate to say it, but the right thing to do is to speak with your EX and agree to never see her again. Neither of you should tell anyone. You have to live with your guilt and she has to live with hers. Those are your crosses to bear. For some reason, people feel they need to get this shit off their chests to make themselves feel good, but all you do is hurt more people.

If my wife cheated on me, would I really want to know? No, I would not, as long as it has stopped. Why ruin a marriage?

yeah...i know...thats the really screwed up part...i think i end up the loser here...man i've been messed up all day over this...and you know what i learned? i learned how hard it is to be in a work environment where everyone is supposed to be all gung ho and carefree...i did bring this up to the fellas on my team but you know how that is...i laughed about it and got the slaps on the back...i even told a threesome joke or two...ya always gotta pretend everythings cool around ya boys...now i'm in my office staring at my fishtank in the dark thinkin damn i fucked up and rantin on mb

Seems like you have a lot of "machizmo" in your life. Sort of fits with a lot of other things you and I have bantered about.

You gotta ask yourself this question: "Do these people really bring out the best in you"? And, "what types of lives do they lead and is it the type that you want?". I always find it funny when people give relationship advice who have messed-up ones at home.

My brother in law is separated from his wife now for the second time. All he does is hang out in the bar bitching about her to a bunch of other dopes who are doing the same thing. Then she gets pissed because he is in the bar every day. It does not do any good for his marriage and the two kids that they have. Drive me nuts that he just does not see it.

Seriously, I know it happens, but no one should be giving you a "high 5" in this situation. Especially not when you are hurting too.

funny you should say that..ya know, theres not one...NOT EVEN ONE happily married guy in the entire office where i work...how can any of us be? weird hours...constantly on the move...sometimes work can keep us away from home for a week or so...sometimes you cant even call...i would be nutso without this lil laptop...and dont even get me started on trying to close my eyes without seein another dead guy

whew...okay...i feel better now...that bout of conscience was thankfully a passing thing...i just made up my mind to roll with the first one who calls me in the morning


i should say though in defense of my ex....shes not a bad girl...i did sort of screw her over and leave her pregnant when she was very young and i was her first...i dont really deserve for her still to be in love with me...part of my guilt was that i'm sure this guy shes with is probably a kinder man than i am...cause if i was a good guy, i would walk away and let her live some kinda life with him...............................................

i dont know what to say here mabey you should call up your ex and say lets talk about having a get together. and find out what she wants that might it easier for you. wish you the best man. and just remember every thing will be ok in the end.

+1,000,001

For real. Listen to WaterDR.

i ended up messin up a good relationship once. i got freeky with an ex....the ex was the current girls sister at the time. u wanna talk about a shitty situation, i knew how u felt.

after "gettin er dun" goin with ur ex is kinda like jerkin off. stick with the girl u got now. keep ur mouth shut. best u can do is jus like water said, talk to her and say listen just fuck off. you got a fiance i got a girl, good things are goin on right now for both of us and neither of us wanna mess up our lives ne more.

arnt u in the middle of a promo? dun let work stress you out so much u mess things up with what could b potentially some1 tha could b around u longer then ur ex.

in the end ask urself this. who laughs at my shitty jokes even when i dont? who will be there in the end? and who will b waitin at home for me when i get back from a hunt and havnt talked to them in a week.

best the luck bro. im sure ull figure it out in the end

Where the hell was your girlfriend when you were with your ex? Shit, my girl would know if i didn't come home. hahaha.

i dont live with my girl...she lives with her family...and we had this big blowup so she wasnt gonna be poppin by anyway...thats sort of why it happened...stress from her...stress from work...stress from the clientel...heh

:confused: dude i wasnt gonna ask but its been buggin me for a while now...what does that line mean? lol :confused:

It would've been interesting if your current girl decided to stop by to make up and found the ex over your place.:eek:

that brings to mind another issue...i'm thinkin that theres really no way this is gonna turn out sunshine and roses so maybe i ought to find a hideout for my mustang for awhile...or at least a locking gas cap...cause i can recover from cosmetic damage but i'll flip if someone goes to the tank...then it'll get really ugly

really weird thing is...i do love my girl..but now my ex is sorta comin back into my thoughts...the ex is younger than my girl and has this kinda innocent thing goin on thats kinda hard to ignore

Not trying to offend but that innocence is gone after she was engaged and had sex with her ex. I don't even know her and i don't have any respect for her. Sorry.

hmm true...but then maybe i never should have let him have her to begin with...hmm...naw...i have my girl...but then

What you have to do is decide. You have to realize what you want to do. Do you care about hurting others if you get what you really want? You only live once. You lived without your ex for awhile i assume, so you obviously can go without her. Your current girlfriend, would you want to hurt her? You already messed up, so you can either try to get through it, or just lie through your teeth to try not to hurt anyone. But let me tell you, if you decide to try to get away with it, if she ever finds out, its going to be catastrophic.

after bangin my ex girl it was tasteless... ide rather have a chubby stripper then an ex.

Get-R-Done is the catchphrase of larry the cable guy, a comedian (although he's not that funny) who makes fun of white trash. The sad part is a lot of his most die hard fans don't even realize he is making fun of THEM.

lol larry the cable guy is HILARIOUS.

hes also blue collar tv. and yes his fans know hes makin fun of them. its like havin an indian guy laughin at russle peters when he makes the voice impressions. its just funny shit:eek:

I cheated lon my girl last year and got even got that girl pregnate. It was the first time I had ever cheated in my life and to be over 30 y/o... I fealt like chit! After all the prgnacncy issues and all that stress plus the stress of covering up all my tracks and "who seen what" and I wonder if they can hear. It was a really screwed up situatuion. I will ever cheat again I know that. I didnt like always looking over my shoulder and the double life I was living. In the end all the stress made me crack and I came clean. I told my girl about everything (mistake #2) Well after about 6 hours of her yelling and crying and at time beating me... we ended up staying together. Its now been a solid year since I came clean, and still to this day I get hit with cheat low down comments about how I cheated. Every disagreement we have she has to throw that in there somewere. I love my girl and I want to be with her, and I am still its just alot harder now cuz I know I got to pay a price for what I did.

The point Im making is this. It wasnt long ago that I was in similar shoes as yours. If you decide to stay with your girl friend NEVER EVER..... I MEAN NEVER tell her what you did. Even if your ex goes and tells your g/f herself. You dont know WTF she is talkin about.... She (g/f) wasnt there.... she didnt see you doing it.... and she didnt put her hands on you while you did it. It cant be proven. Denie till you die. If you ever confrim it from your mouth TRUST ME... things will never be the same and you may as well leave anyway.

Good Luck in your decisions!