why are they so god damned confusing. i dont ****ing understand

alright so there's this girl i've been sort of seeing for a couple weeks. she's great...really really easy to talk to, into alot of the things i am (drinking, smoking pot , shooting guns, and cars) on top of that..she's freaking hot. i havent been really dating her as much as i have been "hanging out" with her...but we'll drive around in my wrx for hours talking, ill go chill at her house..listen to music, watch movies, talk, whatever. she knows i have feelings for her, because like a dumb *** i confessed them one night after some deep conversation..i asked her how she felt..she said it was to early to tell..

so last night..my senior prom night...i has asked her to prom, and she of course said yes...we went to dinner had a great time, danced, and on the last dance, i kissed her..and she seemed to like it...after prom she was cool with going to a buddy's house to get wasted (really nice house btw 2 mill dollars, **** was bawlin) ..she got really ****in trashed..i mean, she wasnt able to walk, talk, or do anything...except climb on top of me and make out with me for a couple hours (she tried to go further, but i stopped her..i respect her to much to take advantage while she's so drunk)....the drive home she was still wasted as ****...she was kissing my neck, lips, ear..the entire right side of my face..i drop her off...

she calls me at like 10 pm tonight and we start talking..apparently she doesnt remember ****, especially the all the kissing. while we were talking about it she slipped that she didnt know why she kissed me so much and half jokingly i said it's probably because you feel nothing for me..and she responds with something like "well at this point in my life im not ready" ..she also mentioned something else about how she felt about me...i dont know what she said though, to mumbly. i think she was trying to stress that the drunken making out didn't mean anything

so what the **** does this mean? have i been wasting my time?
does she want a relationship, but is trying to stop her self? (a couple months ago her x really hurt her) or is she not interested? i was starting to really like this girl...i need an outside perspective


cliff notes:
i date girl
girl is really awesome
i confess feelings to girl
girl says to early to tell
i take girl to prom
i kiss girl at prom
girl molests me via mouth after prom
girl claims shes not ready for a relationship

 

congrats you became the "guy freind" not boy freind, you ****ed yourself. It doesnt matter though your going to college and there will be many more girls trust me.

 

You are the rebound guy so it may not work out for you. Shes telling you about not being serious as does not want to get hurt again. You need to decide if its worth the gamble. The only reason you have her now is because she is down in the dumps.

You can do two things be a child, keep smoking, drinking ,screw her and see what happens or grow up and try to help her as well as yourself go beyond the infantile stage you are in and actually work on a relationship. You would be a bigger man if you told her, "listen I like you but the other night I realized that I was beyond what we were doing. Im ready to move on and do something else besides smoke and drink."

If she really wants to be with you she would agree if not she just wants to get laid and use being wasted as an excuse. I can see it now if you started dating and her screwing someone else blaming drugs for it.

 

i was just in the same position. she wants you to chase her.

 

sucks man but honestly I think girls are the hardest thing for a guy to understand its hard.. you just got to play the game and hope for the best..

 

Ignore her.
For two reasons,

a) itll drive her insane

b) maybe you dont need to waste your time

You'll have to decide.

 

Girls, lol.

Just gotta be patient and let things happened.

I've been with mine for 17 months now, woot!

 

I would agree with Venom on this one. But Jack also makes a very compelling argument.haha. Anyways, you probably are the rebound and she just likes having someone like you around, but doesnt want things to go further than they are now. You need to either hit it and quit it like Jack said, or be friends with her and tell her you can't be doing all the other stuff. There will be plenty of chicks in college though, trust me.

 

hate to tell you dude but you've been placed in "The friend zone." You could still try to get with her, but once she sees you as nothing more than a friend, it's a damn near impossible to make her think otherwise. Don't worry though there are plenty of other girls out there, especially if you are going to college soon.

 

YOU HAVE GOT IT!!!

COLLEGE IS SWEEEEEEEEET!

 

Dude, not for nothing but you may have just blew your chance of hittin' it! If the opportunity comes back your way then seize it! If not then she's probably gonna get back with her ex and tell him and her friends how such a wonderful "friend" you are. Then they'll all wanna be your friend. Smoke your trees and get some good advice then leave you with your coc# in your hand!

So if it comes your way hit it, regardless of if she's wasted or your wasted, still respect her and act like it was supposed to happen!

 

Coming from a chick you are the "guy friend" not b/f I would not call her or hang out with her for awhile then you will see where you stand with her. Sorry to hear about that it sucks to be the guy friend and not the boyfriend. But look at it like this you are going to college soon and there are better chicks out there for yeah. So dont worry about it.

 

ouch....yeah, you NEVER want to hear the words "I just want to be friends". over my short life I've had maybe 2 girls I'd consider friends, but I quickly figured out....WTF would I want a chick as a friend?....do chicks like to watch sportscenter 10 times in a row like I do...NO....do chicks like to talk about cars and banging chicks while drinking beer....NO...I could go on and on. My point is that once girls see you as a "friend type" your screwed....If you want to hang out with people you have lots of stuff in common with, hang with your boys and only date chicks, don't be friends with them. Guys are usually only friends with chicks because the girl won't give them the time of day otherwise.

With all of that said there are exceptions of course.....oh and another thing, that will probably cancel out everything I just said.....when you meet the right girl she will become your best friend! ha ha ha

 

I'm done with trying to find romantic relations with chicks....

Hit it and quit it is my new motto.....best advice I can give ya man..

 

PIIHB

 

amen, brother, amen!

 

Hell yeah...that'l make her remember for a long time......

 

hahaha thanks for the advice..i'll consider what you all told me, and keep you updated.

i've been in the whole "guy"freind not boyfreind situation several times. i know, it sucks ****ing *****. but this honestly feels different somehow

 

You probably should have taken your chance with sexing her up. It sounds like she would have given you the chance. It really depends on the age of the lady. Younger women may not appreciate a good romp as some more experienced woman would. But you cant tell that until after the fact. The trick is to make her enjoy it. You really have to make any woman enjoy herself while you get yours.. And sometimes that means going above and beyond just getting yours.. In other words, make her satisfied before you get satisfied. To put it politely..

 

If she wanted something she would have ****d you after prom, she didnt so there is your answer.

 

update: im dating her now


but uh turns out i didnt really understand her the first time....she wasn't ready to ****, she didnt say she wasnt ready for a relationship...like i said..she mumbled it. i didnt want to take advantage of a girl i held in high respects anyway

 

Next time tap that thing. Remember,nice guys finnish last,and don't get any. Or maybe you will get it.

 

did you not read my last post?

 

Wow, i'm really glad i'm done with the dating thing.

 

Thats why I added the maybe part.

 

I think for now on, there needs to be pics posted of the girl in question. If we are going to have a multiple page thread about a girl and blah blah blah then we need to see if it's even worth giving advice for. Just my opinion.